A Chat with Mr. Locario, Renowned Dating and Relationship Coach

Mr. Locario, Dating and Relationship Coach

If you are not familiar with Mr. Locario, he is a nationally known dating/relationship coach. He is also the author of several books, including “The Magnificent 10: Crucial Dating Tips for Men,”  “It’s Your Fault You’re Single: Tips on Finding Mr. Right.” and his critically acclaimed book “How to have Sex with 2 Women a Day,” which describes his true-to-life approach in dating many women. Moreover, the book has been adapted into a short film.

Mr. Locario has been featured on Vh1, FUSE, The Dish Network, TLC, ABC Family, The Tyra Banks Show and Anderson Cooper.  He has appeared in Magazines, such as Rolling Stone, Blender, Source, and Vibe, and has written for FlaglerHill and the Fort Green New York Times Blog.

What separates Mr. Locario from other relationship gurus is his no nonsense realistic approach to the dating game and the game of life. The idea is to give men and women the knowledge, truth, and confidence to understand what they want, thus, helping create the best options for themselves in Love and in Life.

His dating advice is accessible through online videos, blogs, and his website www.mrlocario.com. He is also available for individual support and counseling. In addition to his relationship analysis work, Mr. Locario is a rap artist and actor. In 1996, he founded the entertainment company ITAKKS Inc. For the last 14+ years, he has and still performs under the name of “Trends” in New York, California, Florida, and New Mexico.

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Thank you for taking the time out of your busy schedule to chat with One World Singles Magazine Blog.

Who or what inspired you to become a dating/relationship coach. I was inspired to become a dating coach because I was a serial dater. I would date so many different women and then I realized that I was really good at talking to women. Also, I’m really passionate about helping other people in their dating lives. I went through so many mistakes and I didn’t want people to go through the same things I went through.

You have written several books on dating/relationships, which came first, the writing or the coaching. The coaching came first. I actually used to coach some of my close friends before I even really considered taking this seriously. Then I started to make videos and write articles and post them up online. I got such a great response from people from all around the world. I would get emails from London and Australia. After that I decided to put out my first book called “The Magnificent 10 Crucial Dating Tips for Men” then I wrote my second book which was for women called “It’s Your Fault You’re Single: Tips on finding Mr. Right” and finally my third book “How to Have Sex with 2 Women a Day”

You are also a rap artist and an actor. In fact, one of your books, “How to have Sex with 2 Women a Day,” became a short film. What type of feedback have you received about the book and the film? How to Have Sex with 2 Women a Day the book is basically a “How to” step by step book that teaches men how to step up their game and have more options to have more sex and dates in their dating lives. The feedback has been awesome. The funny thing is I had a lot of women who were mad at me for writing that book. What women don’t realize is that book also helps them out in the long run because when men learn how to talk to women and have more options to be with the type of women they like to be with then they will make better choices if they choose to stick with one girl at the end of the day. Most guys just take what they can get because they have no game. So I always ask women do you want to be with a guy who just settles down with you because he feels like you are the only woman he can get, or do you want a man who knows he can get any woman he wants but decides to stick with you because he knows you’re the right woman for him.

I made the film as a way to promote the book. It has been getting a great response. I had no idea it was going to come out that good. There is actually no written script; it was all improv. I actually had a few celebs hit me up telling me how much they enjoyed the film. I want to make it a full-length feature film soon.

As a dating and relationship coach, what are some of the most valuable lessons you have learned? I learned that you have to be a good listener and you have to be honest. 

What advice would you give someone who is thinking about becoming a dating and relationship coach? I would say that if you are going to be a dating and relationship coach that you do your research and you should have a dating life. You should also be honest with the public and not do it just for money.

Are you planning to write any more books in the near future? I have another book coming out for women called “The Magnificent 10 Crucial Dating Tips for Women, and I’m also writing books for teaching men and women how to be successful with online dating.

How can our readers get in touch with you? You can contact me at www.Mrlocario.com or my blog site http://www.ilooksexynaked.com. You can also follow me on twitter at @realmrlocario. If anyone wants private coaching they can contact me at mrlocario@gmail.com

Thank you for allowing us to dialogue with you. Do you have any words of wisdom for singles that are forever searching for true love? I would tell anyone who is single and who is looking for someone special is to make sure you love yourself first and you know what you want out of a relationship. If you love yourself and know what you want, you will attract people who want the same things that you want.

Check out “How to have Sex with 2 Women a Day” Trailer

An Erotica Author Who Never Goes Midway

Guess what? Bridget Midway’s contemporary interracial BDSM (can you hear the whip crack?) erotic romance novella "Carried Away" through Whispers Publishing is now on sale through All Romance eBooks! Her story is the third story that completes the series along with authors Yvette Hines ("Stealing the Bride") and Aliyah Burke ("If You Dare"). If you haven't already gotten their stories, don't wait! Be sure to get all 3! And yes, all 3 stories will be in 1 anthology called Taken, and it will be available in ebook and print in late April or May.

Synopsis of Carried Away

What happens when you can’t face your perfect man?

Summer Carter faces that dilemma as her two best friends, Kathryn Maynard and Leya Greenwood, convince her to honor their pact and take her adventure. She flees to a tropical Hawaiian paradise when she can’t face her online Dom, Xander. The reality of the relationship and what she really wants in a man is too much for her to face.

Xander Houston never saw himself as a Dom who would need to look for a submissive on a personals site. But when he encounters a witty and intriguing profile for a submissive named End of Summer, he strikes up a fast friendship with her. Months later, she still refuses to meet him face to face, and he tells her he’s going to take a break.

Coincidentally, both end up in Hawaii on separate vacations. When Xander finds her and figures out who she is, he cooks up a plan to sweep her off her feet, not as a Dom, but just as Xander.

When Summer discovers the truth, will she run away from her secret Dom or will she allowed herself to get carried away?

Author’s Sites:

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Author Lendy Demetrius Returns With His Second Novel I Live, You Move On

Lendy Demetrius, Author

No one does seduction and suspense like Lendy Demetrius. He possesses an intense voice, and his words bring chills in his writing. A story that is powerful, nail biting and touching. An ingeniously moving story, inspiring, profoundly real.


Gripping, limitlessly creative, going to be read for a long time to come.

After several years in hiatus, author Lendy Demetrius has return to bookshelves nationwide with the release of his second novel, I Live, You Move On. Set in New York City, the story follows the lives of two strong, driven career women who find their love lives will not be as easily conquered as their professional lives have been.

Lendy made his return to the literary scene with the vivid tale of two dynamic women, one Latina and one African-American, seeking to find balance between their personal and professional lives without having to sacrifice one for the other. “As minorities, our lives are so diverse,” Lendy says of his style of writing. “I love to bring to light the challenge in not only revealing that diversity, but also synergizing the layers that take us beyond the collective African-American or Hispanic experience, to the unique individuality of each character.”


A Summary of the Characters

JULISSA LONGORIEZ never intended to let her personal life derail her work. In fact, Julissa made it a point to avoid attachment and love. Besides, getting too close to any man would force her to have to come to terms with a past she has worked so hard to bury. But her latest conquest has a different plan in mind. Despite his current relationship with another woman, Avery knows that Julissa is the one he wants. Moreover, with the rapidly changing circumstances of her life, Julissa must decide if keeping her past secret is more important than building the future she never thought would be hers.

Demetrius’ other protagonist, NAHLA VOYAS, is almost the exact opposite of her friend Julissa. For years, Nahla has played doting wife and mother, ignoring her husband’s philandering ways and sacrificing her dreams to keep their home life as close to perfect as possible. But when the truth about his extramarital activities becomes too much to ignore, Nahla decides she must love herself and her daughter more than this man. She must do what it takes to put herself first and become the role model her child deserves. However, getting there may not be that simple.

As with his first novel, There Could Be Joy and Pain in the Long Run, Lendy Demetrius demonstrates a true mastery of his subjects in I Live, You Move On. He delivers Julissa and Nahla’s first person accounts in an engaging manner that keeps the readers glued to the pages as they discover the circumstances that have made these two women who they are. With each twist of the present and revelation of the past, Demetrius creates a world so vivid that it could very well be unfolding on screen.


An Interview With The Author

Who are your favorite authors? How have they impacted your writing? I would say Eric Jerome Dickey, Victoria Schmidt and Douglass Adams. I liked Eric Jerome Dickey’s book a lot. His books are very well written & I learned a great deal about character development. Victoria Schmidt's books incorporate her incomparable interests in different paths that allow me to imagine things differently about various topics while presenting me with realistic tools to examine things on my own. “45 Master Characters” is like a bible to me, especially if I am stuck somewhere in my writing. It helps me think of the different possibilities. My beloved book has been unquestionably “The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy” by Douglass Adams. His comical aspect is unconquerable and his satire lasts for days. He commences his book by saying he came up with the idea while intoxicated in an arbitrary field in London. He is honest and I find that to be loved in a person’s character.

In the years since you were last published, what has changed in your life? How has that affected your writing? What hasn’t changed! It seems like every facet of my life has changed through the years. Each evolution brought it's own challenges and lessons. Overall, it's caused me to learn to be more submissive and to accept that I can't always be in control. I've learned to relinquish control over the writing process too. Now, I just write. Even if it’s precisely five minutes a day. I realize that everything I write doesn't have to be my best work. I just have to create thoughts and write, without worrying about the outcome or how it will be received by others.

Where did you find the inspiration for Julissa & Nahla? Julissa & Nahla, both came from different aspects of my life and what I see around me. Their being comes from everywhere: situations I find myself in, songs, movies, conversations I’ve overheard. I would sit on the train and watch people and get inspired there. New York has millions of characters and therefore I am able to do my best writing on the rush hour train.

What's the relationship between the two women? They’re high school friends. Nahla is Julissa’s only girlfriend. Julissa is the type that has a problem with almost every other woman. In her mind, all women hate her because of the attention she gets. Julissa normally gets along more with men than women. Nahla is not the type to judge her, which is what has kept their friendship so strong over the years.

How different are the characters in this book in comparison with the ones in your previous effort? They're hard to compare because they evolve in completely different spaces, experiences, and different settings. Also, since Julissa & Nahla are older, everyone involved in their lives deals with situations with more maturely.

Is there any aspect of the book or the characters' lives that you left out of the final product? I took a character out. I didn’t feel I developed her enough. She would have been so overpowered by Julissa and Nahla and the twists and turns in their lives, that writing her in would have been a waste of a good plot line. So I will use her for another project.

What is the one personal thing that has the biggest effect on your writing? My past relationships, from dark to light, and everywhere in between. I use different stages of emotions in my writing, even if it has nothing to do with the situation. I use it to my advantage.

Is there a process or ritual that you use to find creativity when writing? What lesson from your experience with the last book did you apply to writing this book? I normally write on the train. I have to have noise around me or something going on. I guess it reminds me of high school days when I would ride on the train and do homework on my way to school. Or when I would turn on the radio when I am home and do my homework. Once I had created the characters and understood who they were, their lives just unfolded! I would much rather write than edit or revise or even do research. I went a bit deeper in the thought process and the emotions with I Live, You Move On. I learned that the more involved your readers are with the characters' emotional state, the easier it is to take them on the exact journey you want to lead them on.

What advice would you offer to up-and-coming writers today? I would say just do what you do. Write what you know and write for you. It is a lot easier to draw audiences into a story you know how to tell than it is to try to figure out what they want.


About The Author

The oldest of four children, Manhattan-born author Lendy Demetrius was introduced as a teenager to the escape that would become his life’s passion – writing. A high school teacher, who took the initiative to not only provide Lendy with guidance, but also to encourage and nurture his talent, made the introduction. “Mr. Bailey showed me that writing was a way to process and express what was going on in my life,” he recalls. “He showed me how to be still and take time for myself; writing was what made me still in moments of chaos.” Lendy quickly discovered that writing was something he could do and do well.

While in college, though he had not yet decided to pursue writing professionally, Lendy drew inspiration from everything including creative writing courses and the works of his favorite authors that helped to develop his written voice. That voice captures and relates themes of contemporary romance and drama, wrought in the African American and Hispanic experience.

Lendy also infuses his writing with tales of overcoming life’s trials, as he has had to do. “I feel every action we play in our lives leaves an etching, like a drawing,” he says of his writing style. “Writing novels for me is like connecting to a framework composed of our lives, culture, history, our pains, and our indulgences. I want to be able to tell a story that draws the reader in and open their conceptions.” In 2002, at the age of 21, Lendy became a published author, releasing There Could Be Joy and Pain in the Long Run.

Currently working as an accountant for a corporate real estate firm, Lendy Demetrius is also working on a transition or expansion into screenwriting.


Purchasing Links

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You can check out the Author’s Web Site at http://www.lendydemetrius.com/

Lendy Demetrius is available for interviews, book signings and readings. For more information, please contact Youseline Obas with the Seline Media Group at youseline@selinemediagroup.com or (347) 234-6297

ABC’s for Dating a Single Mom

With Mother’s Day approaching, we thought this article was timely.

Happy Mother’s Day to all.


http://www.topdatingsites.com/blog/2011/abcs-for-dating-a-single-mom/


Submitted by Donna Cullen

Thank You For Your Support

2010 is ending, and we would like to take this time to thank you for your continuous support, positive feedback and thoughtful comments. We also want to thank our guest bloggers and writers who have contributed some of the most electrifying articles, which have made this Blog very popular among our followers.

We are taking a well-deserved break and will return on January 3, 2011 with some more fantastic articles, news and interviews along with more fun and entertaining features.

Seasons’s Greetings and have a Safe, Happy, Healthy and Prosperous New Year.

One World Singles Magazine Blog Staff

Top 5 Dating Apps for Women

Getting a date is only the first step. Making sure that it goes well and is another hurdle in itself. To make sure that the whole process goes smoothly, check out these great apps that can help you from excusing yourself from a date gone wrong to learning how to charm his socks off.

Charm Him. Even if you're certain you've found the man of your dreams, the trick is to not only to get him to notice you, but to keep him interested. This neat app promises to help women learn how to woo your date from beginning to end by teaching the tricks and the trade of attraction and romance. The app separates advice into several categories, including conversation, fashion and grooming, body language, storytelling and theory and mindset. It also tells you what not to do. Cost: 99 cents

Excuse me. For those times when you could really need an escape from your disaster date, download this app that places fake calls and texts to your phone. But unlike its competitors, this app not only lets you set a timer and shows a "slide to answer" screen, but is also offers an indistinguishable voice on the other end (so it seems like a real phone call). So if the date is going all wrong, get out when you can. And if it's going perfectly, then just ignore the call and score some brownie points for being a very attentive date. Cost: $1.99 

Coverup. In the beginning, both parties try to pretend that neither of them releases any kind of gaseous bodily odors or emissions. While we are all human and know what generally happens behind a closed bathroom door, this clever apps let's you keep up the charade for extended period of time by generating "appropriate" bathroom noises such as flushing, running water and the soft buzz of a hand dryer to disguise another kind of err, "un lady" like sounds. Cost: $0.99

Date Check. Afraid you'll end up with a total creeper? Download this free app to do a free background check on your date, including criminal records, details about home ownership and property, and other important information. Cost: Free

Little Black Book. For those of you who like to juggle dates, keep names and faces organized with this handy app. It not only lets you store a list of everyone you've ever dated, but it also lets you attach ratings, pictures, and "information" section where you can put enter your dates' favorite foods and size. What makes this app so special is that it even includes a locking system in case there is a particular person you don't want to end yup drunk dialing. Cost: $4.99

This guest post is contributed by Vanessa Jones, who writes on the topics of dating sites. She welcomes your comments at her email address: vanessa.jones42@gmail.com

Introducing Bridget Midway, Author of Erotic Romance Novels

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Surviving a Long Distance Relationship by Allison Schleck

There are many times in life where you are in a fantastic relationship, almost too good to be true, and then the distance divides you. Most couples are unable to bypass the trenches of long distance relationships because they are extremely difficult. However, if your heart is in the right place, then you and your partner can survive a long distance relationship. It takes patience and hard work to make this relationship bloom, but when it does, then spring will never break.

Long distance relationships are worth the heartbreak because when you return to see each other again, you have to realize that not just any couple can live months without seeing each other and still have an amazing connection. The most important rule to live by when in a long distance relationship is making the time to always communicate with your partner. You will have to use all of your resources to keep the love flowing along. Speak on the phone, through video chats, text messages, instant messenger and through good old snail mail. Writing letters to each other are a great physical reminder that your loved one is thinking of you and taking the time out to write to you.

You may not be able to be together physically but this does not mean that you cannot have a presence there with the person you love. Sending care packages are a great way to stay connected. Make sure you send gifts that are meaningful and that will give your loved one the feeling that you are right in their room when they open up the package. Sending something sweet will remind your partner how delectable you are, something silly will remind them of your great sense of humor, spraying your perfume or cologne will remind them of how they feel when you are in their arms and something romantic to remind them of how sensual you are.

Fighting is the easiest way to put distance between the two of you. The more you fight, the more damage you do to your relationship and sometimes you cannot not bridge that gap. There are a lot of feelings including anger and frustration so it takes a great deal of self restraint to remove yourself graciously from a situation that is doomed to end in a fight. Sometimes you cannot control the distance between you and your loved one. A month of fighting is less worse than three or four or even more. Try to see each other at least every two to three weeks. You can survive more months but your relationship will truly be put to the test.

When it is time to see each other again, it should be an emotional and romantic day full of happiness. Even with months of fighting, there will still be joy that this period of distance is over. It may take a couple of days or even weeks to truly get back into synch with your partner. The more time that you spend apart, the more time it will take to adjusting to life together and bringing that physical element back to life. You can survive the distance because it isn’t the distance that will break your love, it is the lack of effort put into your relationship, just like in any relationship, that will break your bond. There are plenty of long distance couples who are thousands of miles apart that have a stronger connection than couples that live close together and see each other on a daily basis.


Allison Schleck is a featured writer for the Dating Websites. Allison is a well-accomplished bilingual writer for magazines, websites and newspapers who teaches Karate Do on her down time.