Women
who have invested so much money into a relationship sometimes turn a blind eye
when a man is no longer interested in pursuing that bond. This is not to say
that women are the only ones who suffer from this syndrome. Men also have a
tendency to want to continue a relationship that has seen its days. But we are
talking mainly about some women since they seem to want to hold on to a
relationship that is no longer working.
A
woman should never support a man financially who refuses to bring something to
the table or add something of value to her life, just for the sake of saying,
“I have a man in my life.” If you choose
to buy a man’s affection when there is no reciprocation on his end, then the
union is doom to fail.
Take
the following scenario: A woman has just met a man at a social event. To
her it is love at first sight, and she wants this man, no matter the cost. After
knowing him for only two weeks, she buys him a cell phone. One month later, she co-signs for him to buy
a car. Two months later, he leaves her, but she doesn’t realize that he never
really wanted her as much as she wanted him. He read her like an ATM. The
operative word is wanted. She wanted him to the point where she was
willing to buy his love, thinking the relationship would last indefinitely but
that was never his intentions. Now he has disappeared, and she is left paying
off that loan and decides to take him to small claims court, but the blow is that
she still wants to pursue the relationship even though he insists the cell
phone and the car were gifts. “I didn’t ask for those items; she gave them to
me. We were never lovers, we were just friends.” Of course it never occurred to
him to just say “No.” A real man would have said, “When I save enough money, I
will buy my cell phone and car.” What makes this even more heartbreaking is
that he has moved on to the next desperate female who will fall right into his
trap.
There
are many, many stories like this one and lessons to be learned: When you meet
someone, take your time before jumping into a relationship; study that
individual’s deeds and true intentions. Does he share the same values and
aspirations as you do. Is he financially secured, has good credit and has worked
longer than just two months. You will never really get to know someone at the
drop of hatpin. Think before giving yourself or your money away. Desperation
not only leads to a bankrupt relationship but can also leave you financially in
the hole for years to come.
