How To Date in The 21st Century

The dating world can be an intimidating place, especially if you're getting back into the scene after an absence. It probably seems like everyone is looking for love, but real connections are hard to find. The popularity of online dating has skyrocketed in the past decade, making it one of the most attractive options for finding a date in today's world. However, meeting people in the real world can still be a great way to find dates.

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Signing up for an online dating site can be an excellent way to meet people based on their interests and personalities. Here are some tips for entering into the online dating world.

1. Find the site that's best for you. You've probably seen ads for eharmony or match.com, and these are some of the most popular sites for people looking for long term relationships. But there are also sites that cater to specific groups of people, such as plus-sized singles or singles over 50. There are also some great sites for people looking to date others with similar religious beliefs.

2. Represent yourself honestly on your profile. It's easy for people to lie on the internet, but if really expect to meet someone in person, then it's a bad idea. Just be yourself, and don't try too hard to impress potential suitors.

3. Post a good pictures. People on dating sites are way more likely to message you if they know what your face looks like.

4. Make the first contact. If you've been out of the dating game for a while, you might be feeling shy, but don't just sit back and wait for other people to send you messages. If you see a profile of someone that interests you, contact them.

5. Video chat before going on a real date. Chatting on Skype or webcam can be a great way to talk before going out, especially if you live a long distance from each other. For women, a face-to-face chat can also give you an extra sense of safety before you meet in person.

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1. Go to places where you'll meet other singles. Find a single's group, or join a club where you'll meet people with similar interests. Going to bars is also a good way to meet other singles, but be aware that some people there just want a casual fling.

2. Try Speed Dating. Speed dating can be a fun way to meet new people. It forces you to put yourself out there, and if you don't click with someone, you only have to talk with them for a few minutes. Dress like you would for a normal date and have a few questions prepared in advance.

3. Have a good first date. Dress to impress without overdoing it, and have a few topics of conversation in mind so you can avoid awkward moments of silence. Also know what not to talk about. It's never a good idea to bring up past relationships on a first date, and try to avoid talk of politics or religion.

4. Even in the 21st century, men are expected to bring women flowers, open doors, and pay for dinner. In many cases, women will also expect men to plan the first date.

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Meet Sharea S. Harris, (Lady Harris) Writer, Director, and Producer

Lady Harris, Author of Identity Theft

Sharea Harris was raised in Buffalo, NY where she was introduced to poetry, arts and writing; and now resides in Charlotte, NC. She began writing her first novel “Betrayal” at the age of 19 and published it in 2010; since then she has published two poetry collections, and is working with a publisher on her next novel entitled “Identity Theft”. She believes in variety and diversity, and you can see this in her works. She never bores with the same subject but challenges her talent and reaches higher with each idea. She is now putting the finishing touches of her first Erotica collection of short stories entitled “Office Secrets”.

Since her move to Charlotte, she has expanded her talents in visual and performing arts. Producing her first stage play at the African American Cultural Center in 2004 “Confrontation”, and went on to produce her second stage play “Games” in 2012. Between writing and putting on stage plays Sharea has also produced poetry contests, MC Battles and her live sketch comedy series entitled “Skitz,” at venues in Charlotte and Monroe, NC including but not limited to “The Neighborhood Theater”, The CAST Theater; The Rendezvous Lounge, Upscale Lounge, and The Venue.

Sharea continues to write research and explore new ideas to further her writing career. She has completed her first screenplay entitled “What You Don’t Know,” and plans to shoot it in the near future adding another notch to her belt.

Here is a synopsis of her upcoming book, Identity Theft

She lurks behind smiles and friendly gestures, seeking angles and loopholes. She's clothed in insecurities and misery; but you'd never suspect a thing. She's intentionally watching your every move. She knows you better than you think. While she laughs with you she jots down everything; with her photographic memory. She slides right between conversations baiting, faking and gaining access to all aspects of your life. She is plotting, watching, learning and becoming. Soon you'll see when someone steals your IDENTITY.

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Congratulations, You Have Just Won a Foreign Lottery

“You just won the two million dollar lottery, and to claim your prize, please mail or wire $350.00 to cover processing fee, taxes, and so on.”  Ha! Ha! Ha! The joke is on you. Of course, this is no laughing matter. Most of us have received this type of communication through the postal service, email, or telephone.

If you have to send money to claim your prize, most likely, it is a hoax, and you can end up losing all of your savings. Unfortunately, these tricksters often target senior citizens.

Think about it. If you really win money, why must you send a fee to claim your prize? Let the sponsor deduct the fee from your winnings. Of course, this will never happen. The only people who benefit from this are the people committing the fraudulent act.

If you are a caregiver for a family, relative or friend, please warn them about foreign lotteries. Many are shams, and playing them may be illegal.

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Women, Are You a Mystery to Your Man? By Cherokee Billie

In my many years as a spiritual advisor I have noticed a reoccurring theme with women. They want to love and give all of themselves to the man that they love; the problem is giving all of you leaves no mystery for the man. Men are attracted to mysterious women. Perhaps you have observed a woman that is not particularly beautiful, but she always has men attracted to her and wanting to be with her. Why? She has learned the art of being a mystery. She does not give every detail of her life to the man that she meets. She does not drop everything the moment he calls just for him. If he does not show up for a date, she does not give him a second chance. When they ask her questions, she is able to turn that question back to the man. Therefore she never clearly answers. This drives men crazy. Men always want what they cannot have and that is the lesson you need to learn here and now – if you want to change your dating life around. It is just natural for men to want to know everything about a woman, that is just their curiosity, and they will quiz a woman over and over wanting details of her life. Learn a different way to answer. Here are some examples of how to do it A good example of a woman who remained mysterious always was Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis. No one ever truly understood her. In an interview they asked her what she had to say about her life and her reply was, “Interesting.” She always had a smile when being photographed even if she was telling off the photographer who was taking the picture. She said, “They will never capture me completely no matter how they try.” All of her life Jacqueline attracted men from her early teenage years up to the time of her death. One look at her face and you knew that you could not penetrate to the inner core of this woman. She understood the art of attracting man. There was an actress named Mae West who understood men better than most women ever will and she was not the most gorgeous woman on earth and was slightly overweight, yet, she had men coming and going constantly in her life. The reason was she always had an air of mystery about her and never fully answered a question. If she did answer a question it was usually with a sarcastic joke. Such as the following, “I like two kinds of men: domestic and imported.” She always had a smile as she answered these witty retorts. She drove men crazy. In fact in her movies, which she personally wrote in the early 1930’s, the censorship was so enormous that they created a new code of censorship for movies. (This censorship does not exist today.) Now that is the type of woman you have got to admire! The women that I have counseled and have taken this advice to heart have had a significant change in their relationships with men. Many women I give this advice to just cannot find a way to do this and like a hamster on a wheel they keep going around and around with the same problems in relationships. Become a mystery and see your relationships with men improve dramatically! If you would like personal instructions on how to change your relationships Contact Me, Cherokee Billie, and let us work together to make you a mystery! For more information read the following: See Your Value Rise in the Dating Game! ™®©2008-2013 Cherokee Billie

Cherokee Billie is a spiritual advisor and the author of “Heavenly Seduction,” which takes you through her journey to find God and spirituality.  For more information, visit her site at http://www.cherokeebillie.com

Tips for a Rewarding Internet Dating Experience By Cherokee Billie

In today’s busy world it seems to be more difficult to find people that you would like to date. Internet dating has become one of the most convenient ways to meet someone and find a lifelong partner. More and more people are finding life partners through the internet. People are looking for that someone special whether it be by using an online internet dating service, looking in chat rooms, surveying the possibilities on Facebook, or testing their luck in online gaming and other virtual worlds

There is nothing wrong with internet dating. You just need to use caution and think before you start sharing personal or intimate details about your life. It is important to remember that you really do not know the people you meet on the internet and that you have to remember that they are a stranger.

As a psychic I receive frequent calls from people who have met someone on the internet and feel they have met the person of their dreams. The person calling me wants to know if the internet person is being honest and sincere with them. Using clairvoyant methods I am able to quickly tell someone if the person is being honest or if there is a hidden agenda. 

Often the person on the other end of the internet lives far from the other person and sometimes even in other countries. Right here is a mistake. There can be a great mystique to meeting someone from a different country, but is it going to be practical? How feasible is it for you or the other person to be able to afford to travel long distances on a frequent basis? These may be fun fantasies, but rarely do they work out as long lasting relationships. 

It is best to try to meet someone on the internet who is in your area code or at least in the same state that you are in. It is best to date within a 25 mile radius of where you are. The reason is simple, you want to meet this person face to face as soon as possible because that is going to tell you a lot more about whom this person is. Sometimes people do not even use their own picture on their profile. Many people exaggerate certain facts such as their age, weight, marital status, and sexual history. A face to face meeting will answer most of your questions pretty quickly.

Make sure your profile reflects who you really are. Keep your age within a few years and if you are slightly overweight state that you are. Ask if a person can deal with it? Be upfront with any positives about yourself and any flaws. This will help sort out people that would be a waste of time and energy. Someone has to love you for who you are-warts and all. Do not tell all about your past relationships. That should be reserved for when you meet in person and know this person better.

If you choose to talk by telephone it is best to use a cellular number. Remember this is a stranger you are connecting to. Do not give out your home address. More people are being stalked than ever before in history. Again use caution.

You should arrange to meet within two weeks of constant communication. Do not let a long space of time go before the two of you come face to face. Communicating on the internet can give you a false sense of intimacy. If the other person delays meeting you there may be a reason and the red flag should go up if they constantly have excuses for not meeting.

Meet in a public place and make sure that someone you know and trust is aware of your meeting and that they have all information about the person you are meeting, such as e-mail address, cellular telephone number, and any other pertinent information. This is advisable for men and women. Use common sense in meeting a stranger. Always practice safety first.

Many people that I have counseled as a psychic have sent money to the person they have met on the internet without ever meeting in person. They are always guaranteed that the person will send the money back and that their needs are urgent. People have told them every story from someones mother needing surgery to helping them pay rent. Unfortunately these people have been scammed and never get the money back and never meet the person. I have heard this story over and over. Remember you do not know this person and you have no obligations to help them out financially.

Dating should be fun and internet dating can be fun and rewarding if you use common sense and caution. You are looking to find someone who shares your beliefs, goals, values, and interests.

It does not matter how you meet Mr. or Mrs. Right all that matters is that you do meet and find love.

If you feel you have met that special person through the internet contact me, Cherokee Billie, and I will be able to provide you with information that you may not know, and verify if they are a good match for you.

Also Read: Love Karma

™®©2008-2013 Cherokee Billie

Cherokee Billie is a spiritual advisor and the author of “Heavenly Seduction,” which takes you through her journey to find God and spirituality. For more information, visit her site at http://www.cherokeebillie.com