Monday, June 26, 2023

Dating Expert Shares the 'Brutal Truth' About Single Parents in the Dating World: 'Stop Doing This Now'

A dating expert has shared the 'brutal truth' about single parents in the dating world - and why you should never let someone use their kids as an 'excuse' to avoid spending time with you.


Professional matchmaker and relationship expert Louanne Ward, from Perth, Australia said, 'Everyone knows that anyone who has kids will always put them first, but if someone truly cares about you, then they will also make time for you in a dating capacity. Do not allow somebody to use their kids as an excuse to breadcrumb you,' Louanne said in a clip on Instagram.

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Breadcrumbing is a behaviour in which one partner gives the other partner just enough energy, time, attention, affection, and affirmation to provide some of the elements of being in a romantic relationship, but never quite enough.


Louanne explained that single parents who do not really want to date and instead want to use their children as excuses commonly use breadcrumbing as a tactic.


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'Any logical person knows when they're dating a single parent - whether it's a single mum or a single dad - that parental obligations come first,' she said.


'So if you're dating someone and they keep saying to you, "Oh, my kids come first", then know that this is very much a convenient excuse for them to breadcrumb you with a legitimate reason to do just that'. 


Louanne explained that 'nobody' is going to say that their 'mummy or daddy life' comes before their kids and they will 'drop everything to be at your beck and call'.


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But if someone feels the repeated need to 'continuously tell you or point out to you that their kids come first', they are using their kids as an excuse to have 'everything their own way rather than put in the required amount of effort to date someone'.


Louanne said 'it doesn't add up because once children have been dropped to school or put to bed, it's perfectly easy to 'pick up the phone and call that person you're dating'.


'Someone will always find room to connect with you even if they cannot go out on dates every second night [if they like you],' she said, and will put in the adequate amount of time and effort required - whether they have or haven't got kids'.


She said it is simply a 'dating tactic' single parents use to excuse their bad behaviour.


Louanne concluded: 'Dating is a two-way street; having children may make it harder for you but don't expect others to accept your crumbs. You have to put in equal effort in other ways'. 


Previously, Louanne revealed the one mistake single women make is ditching a man because he wants to help fix their problems rather than just listen to them. 


She said she thinks it is a 'massive red flag' if a man does not offer to help his girlfriend, wife, or the woman he is dating with their problems.


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Simple Ways to Upgrade Your Dating Profile

1. Use photos representing who you truly are, not who you are trying to be.

2. Embrace your personality. If you attempt to play it safe, people will be unsure about how original and fun you will be in real life.

3. Make your profile a unique story, not a shopping list. Nobody really cares that you love cats, red wine, and walks on the beach.

4. Write a profile that is honest, from the heart, and shows your personality.


Source: Louanne Ward

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Monday, June 19, 2023

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Monday, June 05, 2023

Financial Planning Before Marriage by Vivienne Diane Neal

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If you were hit hard financially by COVID-19 in 2020, many experts recommend knowing the status of your finances before you say, “I do.” Even though the pandemic is supposed to be winding down, many are still recovering from the pandemic hit with soaring prices of food, gas, and rent. There is merit to knowing where you stand with your money. Romance without finance is a nuance and the number one fight among couples. Before you take that big step, each person should always have his or her financial state of affairs in order. 

Before committing to marriage, if you have a big credit card debt, need your salary to pay for costs, or borrow one loan to pay another, give yourself a moment to think it over. Money dilemmas will not disappear after the marriage. If you do not resolve money problems first, the cash flow troubles will only get worst. 

This does not mean money problems will not develop. As newlyweds, you want to start out with a fresh slate. The last thing you want is to go into a marriage with accumulated debts from your single days or end up being responsible for someone else’s bad arrears, which can put a strain on the relationship. If you are a saver and plan to marry someone who is a major spender, you will want to protect your assets, especially if you have minor children.

Whether your income is low, medium, or high, the best defense for reducing money quandaries is to manage your money wisely, right from the start. If your money troubles have gotten out of control and you cannot see your way out of a financial mess, you and your future spouse may want to meet with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP). 

You can verify a financial planner and get information on how to manage your money by visiting - While these qualifications do not guarantee that someone is indeed working in your interest, they show a certain level of education and skill.

Managing your money sensibly begins at an early age. It is never too late to oversee your finances. After saying, “I Do,” you and your spouse will not end up working hard for your money. Instead, your money will work hard for you.