The sun is shining; birds; are chirping; bees are buzzing, and the air conditioning is on — summer is here.
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In the world of dating, summer is usually associated with casual flings,
while relationships go hand in hand with winter months. After all, the months
of October through February have even earned the name of “cuffing season.” However,
I would argue that June, July, and August are great months to be single,
especially if you are looking for a serious relationship.
When the online dating website and app Zoosk analyzed data from their 40
million users, they found that more people resubscribed in August than during
any other time during the year and that August is the second most active month
of the year for women, just behind October. They also found July is a “peak
time for people trying online dating for the first time,” meaning new people
that might be a connection for you.
There are a few practical reasons why single people are more active on
dating sites in the summer. First, people tend to be generally happier this
season than the rest of the year, which is a great starting point to any date
or conversation. Who would not be happier when an outing does not require
layers upon layers of clothing or the risk of a blizzard canceling your plans?
People might also have extra time to devote to dating with some time off
from work or school, plus extended weekends thanks to holidays like Memorial
Day, Fourth of July, and Labor Day. A Sunday night date suddenly becomes
something to look forward to instead of a chore, as it might be during other
parts of the year.
And while there are always great date ideas year-round, the possibilities
for activities in the summer are seemingly endless — like checking out an
outdoor winery, going for a walk along the beach (ice cream optional but
encouraged), or wandering around a local fair. Even if you and your date do not
exactly hit it off, it is hard to have a truly terrible time when you are enjoying
the outdoors.
Therefore, you are in a great mood; you have some time in your schedule, and
you have exciting ideas in mind — what should you do now to ensure a successful
summer of matchmaking.
Well, you might want to think about giving your dating profile a mini
seasonal makeover with updated photos, perhaps with a few cute shots. Remember, sunglasses are great, but potential
matches do want to see your eyes in your photos. Prop them up on your head like
a headband for an instantly casual snap that shows off your face! You may also
want to include a little message bait with one of your goals for the season.
Try something like, “summer goal: Fly a kite or catch a fish; does anyone have
tips?” or “Who wants to join me in finally crossing skydiving off my bucket
list?”
Summer is a wonderful time to reset and relax, especially when you get to
spend time doing the things you enjoy with friends and family. Moreover, with
everyone waking up each morning with an extra boost (thank you, vitamin D … and
vaccines); it is also an excellent time to hit the dating scene.
About The Author - Erika Ettin is the founder of A Little Nudge,
where she helps others navigate the often-intimidating world of online dating
and is available for speaking engagements, media requests, and interviews.