Monday, July 25, 2022

News for Travelers

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News from Travel Noire

These Are The Best And Worst U.S. Cities For Dating - Learn More→

Moving To Mexico? How To Pick The Best Mexican City Based On Your Personality - Learn More→

Welcome To Jamrock Reggae Cruise Returns With A Legendary Line-Up - Learn More→

Hotels In Tulum And CancĂșn Region Now Require Guests To Sign Drug Law Awareness Agreement - The state of Quintana Roo in Mexico is cracking down on tourists' drug usage by asking them to sign the Drug Law Awareness Agreement. Learn More→


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News from Travel Awaits


7 Reasons Panama Is A Perfect Destination For Early Retirees - Learn More

The Most Unique Vineyard In The World Is On This Remote Tropical Island - Learn More

6 Of The Most Beautiful National Parks In The World - Learn More

9 Must-Visit Vacation Rentals In Africa - Learn More

6 Packing Tips For A Long Trip When You’re Only Taking A Carry-On - Learn More

Monday, July 18, 2022

How to Find Love - Dating Tips From A Single Mom

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“You are not a bad mom if you go out on a few dates,” says Megha Vohra who found her partner on a dating app.

Whether you are newly single or returning to dating after a period of prioritizing yourself and your kids, dating as a single parent can feel daunting.

However, with honesty, clear communication, and good boundaries, getting back out there can be super fun and fulfilling.

Megha Vohra, a single mother, found her partner on Bumble, a woman-friendly dating app, during the lockdown in 2020. As a mother of two lovely kids, she challenged antiquated societal norms and has been in a successful relationship with her partner for two years.

Megha, who works as a human design coach, shares a few tips on how to navigate your dating journey as a single mother:

1. Move on - The circumstances that led to you being a single parent could be distressing or devastating. However, this is another chance for you to learn from your experiences and get it right. Before you decide to anchor in with someone, have a relationship with yourself. Give yourself all the love you can, and eventually, that light will attract the right person for you.

2. Be open to possibilities - There might be reasons that hold you back from starting over. Sometimes you might meet people who are not a great fit for you, or sometimes you will hold yourself back. The key is to be you and keep an open mind about adapting to new ways of life. Do not feel guilty for choosing and prioritizing yourself for a few hours in a day or week. You are not a terrible mom if you go out on a few dates!

3. Be transparent with your children - If you are thinking of dating as a single mother, have a chat with your kids about the possibility that you might fall in love with someone and help them be open to you about their feelings. Being open with your children is the best gift you can give yourself. Remember, your kids always come first. However, they love to see their parents happy.

4. Know when to introduce your partner to your kids - You do not need to introduce someone right away. Take your time and let it happen organically. Try to introduce the person as a friend first and gradually move on to your romantic involvement. Dating as a single mom involves a bit more work, and with fewer opportunities to chat and hang out, developing a relationship can be a slow burn. 

The upside is that the connections you make are likely to be built on more solid foundations, making them worth the extra effort. Give yourself the freedom to choose the life you want and you will get yourself the right life partner! 

Monday, July 11, 2022

Breadwinner Woman: How to Avoid Hurting Your Relationship

Best-selling romance author Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku provides advice on how women who are the breadwinners can avoid hurting the relationship.


Monday, July 04, 2022

When Obsessive Love Leads to Emotional Turmoil by Miss Know It All

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At what point do you realize a relationship is over if the other person no longer wants to be with you? Do you disregard taking no for an answer or do you take a precarious approach to try to get that individual back?

True love is an equal exchange between two people. However, there are cases where it may feel one-sided with one partner who is trying to control the other.

When a lover is obsessed, that person will want all of their significant other’s attention and will become angry and envious of any perceived threat. They view their partner as a possession rather than an equal party.

Causes of Obsessive Love:

Erotomania - This delusional disorder makes the sufferer believe in a certain destiny for love. The bond between the two might be over, but they still think it is perfect. Because of this, the deluded individual monitors their ‘partner’ to the point of stalking, thinking they are close. It may even escalate to violence, which occurs most times.

Attachment disorder - If the ‘obsessed person’ had an abusive childhood and their caregiver neglected to give them emotional stability, they may develop an attachment disorder. This means that their view of a relationship is to cling and try to control things to ‘save’ the relationship.

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Social and Cultural Norms - A person may have observed one gender being treated as inferior or as a possession. If left unresolved, they can carry these normal habits into adulthood and can attempt to treat their romantic partner the same way.

Mental Health Disorders Like Depression - A sign of depression is feeling lonely and unworthy of love. Because of this, he or she will try to hold on to the relationship even when the object of their affection says they are not interested in filling that void.

Signs of Obsessive Love:

Trying to control their partner is the obvious sign of obsessive love disorder. Their obsession may cause emotional and even physical abuse when their partner fails to ‘cooperate.’ If the other person tries to leave, they encounter a slew of threats. Many people going through this will try to make the relationship last longer than it should when in reality they should just let it go.


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Therapy is the best course of treatment for this disorder. The counselor will determine the intensity of the obsession and help the individual improve. Treatment involves detaching both physically and emotionally from the person they are obsessed with.

Since social media makes it easy to keep track of past loves and feed the obsession further, they encourage patients to unfollow the object of their fixation until they are well.

A good support system, either friends or family, may help the patient speak up early and get the help they need.

Obsessive love can fracture a relationship, defined as giving and taking back love. When the love has toppled with a controlling type of love, that connection is bound to lose balance.

Breakups occur, no matter how long you have been with that individual. There is no need to roll up in a ball and think the world is ending because your bond did not work. Move on with your life by taking the following steps:

· Be sad or livid.

· If the relationship ended on bad terms, give yourself enough time to heal and get over that person. Do not make it too long, i.e. several years.

· Keep yourself busy. Have a “my relationship has ended” celebration.

· Get yourself back into the dating scene. If possible, date several people at a time. Remember, you are not looking for a committed relationship or marriage, which should take time to grow.

· Do not rush into another relationship. You probably did that in the first place, and that is why the relationship did not work.

· Remember, there are plenty of pebbles on the beach and more fish in the sea. Therefore, you can be selective in your choices.

No matter what steps you take, there are no guarantees that a relationship will last without end.

After going through all the pointless mental drama, you will look back on this incident and ask, “What on earth was I thinking? What did I see in that person? Why did I become so obsessive over someone who clarified that he/she no longer wanted to be with me? And why did I allow myself to seek vengeance on the person who was non-threatening when he/she clarified that the relationship was over?”

Remember to put your mental and physical health first when the relationship is heading for a meltdown.