Monday, July 30, 2012
The Changing Face of Romance by Deneice Tarbox
Flowers? Candy? Candlelight Dinners perhaps. These things are nice and every girl or guy who wants them should have them. However, after nearly twenty years with the same person, I have come to value a whole different kind of romance. For me it’s the ability to joke about technically not being legally married—South Carolina didn’t rescind the law against interracial marriage until 1996. We wed there in 1993. That might be why the Justice of the Peace was smiling so broadly. It’s acknowledging the fact that we have little in common, yet use our differences to explore and grow together. Most of all, it’s the ability that this one person has to bring me back to sanity when I start to drift off in the wrong direction.
One of my most romantic moments with my spouse took place over the phone. No, there was no heavy breathing involved, although that might have been nice. Being the work-a-holic that I am, I was wrapped up in work when my cell phone rang. It was hubby calling to tell me that he had just spotted a bald eagle. My first thought was to get after him for driving and talking on his cell phone. My second thought was to give him hell for interrupting me at work. But then something occurred to me, halting all prior thoughts. Out of all the people in the world, he had chosen me to share that moment with.
So keep in mind, anyone can give you flowers, candy, or a candlelight dinner. But developing and maintaining a deep bond that only the two of you can comprehend is truly the epiphany of romance.
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