Putting Others Before Your Spouse

Romance Author/Relationship Advisor Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku discusses putting others before your spouse may be a threat to your marriage.

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Joint Ownership of Property – Does it Work for Unmarried Couples?

 

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Many unmarried couples living together may decide to invest in a home, co-op, condominium or a timeshare.

It can be a ingenious idea and beneficial to enter a joint property ownership, but only if they go in with their eyes wide open and have legal safeguards in place. Here's a breakdown of the pros, cons, and smart strategies:

Potential Benefits

• Shared Investment - Buying property together can build equity and financial stability for both partners.
• Right of Survivorship - If held as joint tenants, the surviving partner automatically inherits the other’s share, avoiding probate.
• Commitment Without Marriage - For couples not ready or willing to marry, joint ownership can reflect a serious commitment.

Risks to Watch Out For

• No Automatic Legal Protections - Unlike married couples, unmarried partners don’t get default legal rights if the relationship ends, or one partner dies.
• Unequal Contributions - If one partner pays more toward the down payment or mortgage, disputes can arise without clear documentation.
• Breakups Get Messy - If the relationship ends, dividing the property can be complicated and may require a partition suit, which is a legal process forcing sale or division.

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Smart Legal Safeguards 

• Cohabitation Agreement - This contract outlines who owns what, how expenses are split, and what happens if you break up. Courts usually uphold these if they’re fair and properly executed.
• Title Structure: Decide whether to hold the property as joint tenants (equal shares, right of survivorship) or tenants-in-common (customizable shares, no automatic inheritance).
• Estate Planning: A will or trust can ensure your partner inherits your share if you pass away.

Joint ownership can work wonderfully for unmarried couples, but only with clear communication, legal planning, and a shared understanding of the financial and emotional stakes. If you're considering it, talking to a real estate attorney or financial advisor is a wise move.

If you would like help drafting a sample cohabitation agreement or exploring title options, visit the two sites below:

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Is Cohabitation the Right Path for Single Couples?

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Cohabitation is when two people in a romantic relationship live together without being legally married. Of course, this is nothing new. Couples have been cohabitating since the world begin. In some cases, it was known as Common Law Marriage. A small number of states and the District of Columbia currently allow the formation of new common law marriages. These districts include Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, Oklahoma, Rhode Island, and Texas. Some states have unique limitations. For instance, Utah allows for the recognition of a marriage by petitioning a court to declare that statutory requirements have been met. New Hampshire offers a restricted form of recognition that applies only for inheritance purposes upon the death of a partner.

It’s a mutual choice for couples who want to test compatibility, share expenses, or simply enjoy each other’s company before saying, “I do” or instead of marriage altogether. In today’s dating landscape, cohabitation has become a common step in many relationships, blending love and practicality under one roof.

Unlike traditional dating, where partners keep separate homes, cohabitation means sharing daily life more intimately. You split bills, chores, and personal space while navigating the difficulties of a live-in relationship. For some, it’s a trial run for marriage; for others, it’s a long-term arrangement that works without a legal commitment. The rise of cohabitation reflects shifting attitudes toward love and relationships, with many valuing flexibility and shared experiences over formal vows.

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Living together can strengthen a relationship by fostering deeper communication and teamwork. But it also comes with challenges—like adjusting to each other’s habits or dealing with conflicts without an easy exit. That's why open conversations about expectations, finances, and future goals are crucial before moving in together.

The dating and relationship business often highlights cohabitation as a milestone, offering advice on everything from merging decor styles to splitting responsibilities fairly. Whether it’s driven by love, convenience, or financial reasons, cohabitation is a modern approach to partnership that continues to grow in popularity. It’s all about finding what works best for you and your relationship, one shared coffee pot at a time. 

Thoughtful Holiday Gift Ideas for Women, Men, Lovers, and Partners

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Memorable Holiday Gifts for Women

Finding the perfect holiday gift for the woman in your life does not have to be stressful. Whether she is a close friend, partner, or family member, the key is to choose something that reflects her personality and interests. Here are some great ideas to spark inspiration.

For the beauty lover, a luxurious skincare set, or a high-quality makeup palette is always a hit. Look for brands she already enjoys or opt for a subscription box that delivers new products monthly. If she loves pampering herself, a cozy robe, scented candles, or a spa gift card can make her holiday extra relaxing.

Bookworms will appreciate a bestseller from her favorite genre or a beautifully bound classic. Pair it with a stylish bookmark or a warm blanket for the ultimate reading experience. For the fashion-forward woman, consider a chic scarf, elegant jewelry, or a trendy handbag—something timeless that she can wear year-round.

Tech-savvy women might love wireless earbuds, a sleek smartwatch, or a portable phone charger. If she enjoys cooking, a high-end kitchen gadget, a gourmet food basket, or a cookbook from a celebrity chef could be a delightful surprise.

Personalized gifts add a special touch—think custom jewelry with her birthstone, a monogrammed tote, or a photo book filled with cherished memories. For the adventurous type, consider an experience gift like concert tickets, a weekend getaway, or a fun class (think pottery or mixology).

No matter what you choose, the best gifts come from the heart. Pay attention to her hobbies and preferences, and you will find something that brings a genuine smile to her face this holiday season.

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Memorable Holiday Gifts for Men

Finding the perfect holiday gift for the special man in your life—whether he is your partner, husband, or lover—can be tricky. You want something that shows you care while also matching his personality and interests. Whether he is into tech, fashion, or experiences, there is plenty of ways to make his holiday unforgettable.

For the tech lover, consider gadgets like wireless earbuds, a smartwatch, or a high-quality gaming accessory. If he is always on his phone, a sleek phone stand or a portable charger could be a lifesaver. For the stylish guy, upgrade his wardrobe with a premium leather wallet, a cozy cashmere scarf, or a classic cologne set. These gifts add a touch of luxury to his daily routine.

If your man enjoys hobbies, personalize your gift to match his passion. A whiskey-tasting set, a custom-engraved pocketknife, or a high-end coffee maker can show you pay attention to what he loves. For the adventurous type, surprise him with tickets to a concert, a weekend getaway, or even a fun experience like a cooking class or skydiving session. Memories often outlast material gifts.

For a romantic touch, go for sentimental presents like a handwritten love letter paired with a framed photo, a star map of your first date, or a custom playlist of songs that mean something to your relationship. These small gestures can deepen your connection.

Do not forget subscription services—whether it is a streaming platform, a gourmet snack box, or a book club membership, these gifts keep giving long after the holidays.

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The key is to choose something that reflects his personality and your relationship. Whether it is practical, sentimental, or only plain fun, the right gift will show him how much he means to you. Happy Holiday Gift Giving. ©

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The first date is electrifying, but it can also be awkward—especially when the bill arrives. The age-old question lingers: who should pay? While traditional norms suggested men should foot the bill, modern dating has blurred the lines. Here is how to manage it without the stress.

I believe the couple should decide before going on the date as to who will pay.

Some people still believe the person who started the date should pay. If you asked them out, offering to cover the check shows confidence and courtesy. But if your date insists on splitting, do not argue—it is a sign of independence, not disinterest. Others prefer going Dutch (splitting the bill) to keep things fair from the start. This avoids any assumptions or pressure, making it a popular choice for casual meetups.

If you are unsure, a simple, "Can I get this?" opens the conversation. Their response will guide you in. If they hesitate, suggest splitting. If they are adamant about paying, thank them and offer to cover the next outing. Small gestures, like grabbing coffee or dessert afterward, can also balance the dynamic.

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Money should not dictate the vibe. Focus on connection over who pays. A first date is about getting to know each other, not keeping score. If things go well, there will be more chances to take turns treating each other.

At the end of the day, there’s no one-size-fits-all rule. Whether you pay, split, or take turns, the key is to communicate openly and keep the mood light. Subsequently, a great first date is less about the bill and more about the chemistry.© 

Office Romance – Yes, or No? By Vivienne Diane Neal

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Wow, things have really changed since I started my first job in 1964. From that point on, I started to work for a temporary agency where I got to work at various companies. And even back then, there were rumors of co-workers engaging in romantic connections and/or extra-marital affairs. Some were obvious while others were subtle.

Office romance is an issue that has been around for eons, and for good reasons. When people spend extended hours together, sparks may begin to fly. Whether it is an elusive crush on a coworker or a full-blown relationship, romance in the workplace is common then it was sixty years ago, but it comes with its own set of complications, and advantages.

One of the biggest magnets of office romance is convenience. You are already spending most of your day with your colleagues, so getting to know someone feels natural. Shared projects, coffee breaks, and after-work hangouts create plenty of opportunities for a connection. Plus, there is something undeniably exciting about stolen glances during meetings or quick chats by the water cooler.

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However, dating a coworker is not all wine and roses. Office affairs can get messy if things go south. Awkward encounters in the break room, office gossip. Even professional conflicts can turn a sweet romance into a professional headache and may lead to sexual harassment complaints. This is why many firms have policies about relationships on the job. Some companies even require employees to disclose their romantic relationship to Human Resource.

If you are considering a romance in the workplace, it is smart to think ahead. Keep things professional during work hours to avoid making others uncomfortable. Be mindful of power undercurrents, especially if one person is in a higher position than the other. And if things do not work out, manage the breakup with maturity to keep the work environment drama-free.

Despite the risks, many people find love at work and some even marry their coworkers! When managed well, office romance can lead to strong partnerships built on shared experiences and mutual respect. Just remember to go about it carefully, keeping both your heart and your career in mind. The last thing you want is for a fling to turn into a career hindrance. ©💔

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If you are having problems finding someone to date with the various online dating apps, you may want to consider using PowerPoint Dating. It is an IRL, which stands for In Real Life, a twist on modern matchmaking using slides. Instead of reading profiles on dating apps, friends create PowerPoint arrangements to pitch their single friends to a live audience of probable dates. It is part performance, part persuasion, and all about celebrating personality in a fun, communal setting.

How It Works:

• A friend builds a 3-minute PowerPoint presentation highlighting why their single friend is date-worthy.
• Presentations include fun facts, photos, anecdotes, and sometimes cheeky stats.
• After the pitch, there is a 2-minute break where the audience can ask questions.
• The goal is to spark interest, laughter, and even an actual connection.

Why It is Catching On:

• Many people are tired of endless swiping and ghosting.
• People are seeking real-life charm.
• It presents community vibe.

The concept gained traction through matchmaking events and festivals. It is a refreshing reminder that dating can be creative, collaborative, and a little silly, in the best way. 💕

Would you ever let a friend pitch you like that? Or you would rather be the one behind the slides? 

How to Avoid Dating or Marrying 10 Types of People

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The Truth About Conditional Love in Dating by Miss Know It All

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Love and dating can feel like a high-stakes game, especially when gifts come with strings attached. A conditional gift is when someone gives something (time, money, affection) expecting something in return, whether it is loyalty, commitment, or even control. While gifts in a relationship should come from generosity, people can use them as bargaining chips, turning romance into a transaction.

Dating today is full of unspoken expectations. Someone might buy expensive dinners, lavish presents, or constant attention, but if they later hold it over their partner’s head ("I did so much for you!"), it stops being love and starts feeling like a contract. Conditional gifts create pressure, and relationships built on obligations rarely last. Love should never feel like a debt.

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The romance industry thrives on grand gestures—luxury dates, surprise trips, designer gifts—but real connection is not about material exchanges. If gifts come with expectations, they stop being sweet and become manipulative. A healthy relationship is built on mutual care, not scorekeeping. When someone genuinely cares, they give without keeping track.

So how do you spot conditional gifting early? Watch for patterns. Does your partner get upset if you do not reciprocate exactly as they hoped? Do they remind you of what they’ve "done for you" during arguments? These are red flags. True love does not demand repayment, it flows freely.

At its core, dating should be about shared joy, not transactions. Gifts are wonderful when given with no strings attached. If you find yourself in a relationship where every act of kindness comes with an invisible price tag, it might be time to reevaluate. Love should lift you up, not tie you down with conditions. A strong relationship thrives on generosity—not on unspoken debts. 💘 

Alienation of Affection: When Love Gets Stolen

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Ever felt like someone pounced in and stole your partner’s heart? That is alienation of affection—a legal term for when a third party interferes in a relationship, causing one partner to emotionally detach. While it sounds like something from a dramatic soap opera, it is a real issue that can wreck relationships.

In the dating world, alienation of affection often happens subtly. A coworker starts texting your partner late at night, or an old flame suddenly reappears, showering them with attention. Over time, these outside influences can create distance, making your partner question their feelings for you. It is not always about cheating; sometimes, it is just emotional drift caused by someone else’s interference.

Social media has made this even thornier. A flirty DM or a nostalgic comment on an old photo can spark doubts. Suddenly, your partner is comparing your relationship to what-ifs, and that’s where trouble begins. The key is to spot the signs early—less communication, sudden secrecy, or unexplained emotional withdrawal.

So, how do you fight back? First, communicate openly. If something feels off, talk about it without accusations. Second, set boundaries—both with outsiders and within your relationship. If someone’s overstepping, call it out. Lastly, focus on strengthening your bond. Date nights, deep conversations, and small gestures remind your partner why they chose you in the first place.

Of course, not all relationships can be saved. If alienation of affection has done too much damage, it might be time to walk away. But if both partners are willing to work through it, love can bounce back stronger.

However, if you are legally married, Alienation of Affection is a rare legal claim that allows a spouse to sue a third party—often, a lover—for intentionally interfering in a marriage and causing the loss of affection. While most states have abolished this misdeed, six U.S. states still recognize it: Hawaii, Mississippi, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Dakota, and Utah. The fundamentals necessary to prove your case will depend on the laws of each state.

At the end of the day, whether married or not, relationships take effort from both sides. Keep the connection strong, and no outsider can shake what you have built together.

For additional information on the legal aspects of Alienation of Affection, please click here. 💔

Rent a Date: A Modern Twist on Dating, Love, and Relationships

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The dating world has evolved dramatically over the years, and one of the more unconventional trends gaining traction is the concept of "rent a date." Whether for social events, companionship, or even practice dating, this service offers a unique solution for those navigating the complexities of modern romance. But what does it really mean to rent a date, and how does it fit into today’s relationship landscape?

What Is Rent a Date? Rent a date services allow individuals to hire a companion for a set period, often for events like weddings, parties, or even casual outings. Unlike traditional dating, these arrangements are typically transactional clients pay for time and companionship without the expectation of a long-term relationship. Some platforms even offer "practice dates" for those looking to build confidence or improve their social skills.

While the idea might seem strange at first, it is rooted in practicality. Many people turn to rent-a-date services to avoid awkward questions at family gatherings, to have a plus-one for special occasions, or simply to enjoy a no-strings-attached evening out.

Why Do People Rent Dates? The reasons vary widely:

1. Social Pressure – Family events can be stressful, especially when single. Renting a date helps avoid prying questions about one’s love life.

2. Companionship – Some people just want someone to talk to or share an experience with, without the complications of a real relationship.

3. Practice Dating – For those re-entering the dating scene after a long hiatus, a rented date can serve as a low-pressure way to brush up on social skills.

4. Networking – In some cases, a charming plus-one can help make professional connections at social gatherings.

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How Does It Work? 

Most rent-a-date services operate through apps or websites where clients browse profiles, select a companion, and book a time. Prices vary depending on the duration of the date, the companion’s experience, and the nature of the event. Some services even offer background checks to ensure safety and professionalism.

Unlike escort services, rent-a-date arrangements usually emphasize platonic interactions, though boundaries can vary depending on the agreement between the client and the companion.

The Ethics and Controversies  

While many see it as harmless fun, others question the ethics of monetizing companionship. Critics argue that it commodifies relationships, reducing human connection to a transaction. There is also the risk of blurred lines—some clients may develop real feelings, while others might expect more than what was agreed upon.

On the other side, supporters argue that rent-a-date services provide a valuable solution for people who struggle with social anxiety, loneliness, or societal expectations. In a world where dating apps often prioritize swipes over genuine connection, renting a date can offer a more controlled and predictable experience.

Rent a Date vs. Traditional Dating - Traditional dating is built on mutual interest, chemistry, and the potential for a long-term relationship. Rent-a-date, however, is a service—clear expectations, no emotional baggage, and a defined end point.

That said, some rented dates have led to real relationships. While rare, spending time with someone in a low-pressure setting can sometimes spark genuine connections. Still, most clients and companions enter these arrangements with clear boundaries.

The Future of Rent a Date - As society becomes more accepting of alternative relationship models, rent-a-date services may continue to grow. Some predict that AI and virtual dating companions could eventually enter the market, offering even more options for those seeking companionship.

However, the core appeal remains the same—human connection, even if temporary, fulfills a basic need. Whether for convenience, confidence-building, or simply avoiding loneliness, rent-a-date services are carving out their own niche in the dating industry.

At the end of the day, love and relationships come in many forms, and renting a date is just another way people are adapting to the ever-changing landscape of modern romance. While it may not be for everyone, it is certainly an intriguing option for those looking to navigate dating on their own terms.💜