Red Flag | Hypocrisy & Finger Pointing in Marriage

Romance Author and Relationship Advisor Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku shares her approach when it comes to hypocrisy & finger pointing in Marriage.

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When a Couple Sells Tickets to Their Wedding by Miss Know It All

 

Miss Know It All

I am giving away my age when it comes to weddings and who should pay.

 

The first wedding I attended was in the 50s. As a rule, the bride’s parents paid for the wedding. And the last wedding I went to was in the 90s. I am not sure who paid for the festivity, but I do know the bride and groom never asked their guests to purchase tickets to attend their nuptial, and if they did, the talk among friends and relatives would have made a memorable talk of the town.

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How the dynamics have changed, and some weddings, especially larger or more elaborate ones, may require guests to buy tickets. This approach can help manage guest lists and cover costs for elaborate venues or special entertainment. I read where a couple was selling tickets for $350.00 to attend their wedding party.

 

The average cost of a wedding has seen a steady increase compared to previous years. This uptick is attributed to a combination of inflation, heightened demand for personalized experiences, and the continued impact of post-pandemic economic recovery. While the average expenditure varies widely depending on location, style, and guest count, couples are generally spending more to create memorable and unique celebrations.

 

The average wedding, depending on where you live, can cost anywhere from $25,00 to $75,000 dollars. When it comes to planning a wedding, couples pay for their own wedding, or both parents of the bride and groom will pay. Of course, cultural and ethnic differences may play a role as to who will pay for the wedding.

 

I can understand setting up a gift registry. But when you sell tickets to finance your wedding, you may be asking others to go into debt to pay for your festivity. You and your partner are getting married not your guests.

 

Before saying, I Do, decide if you are financially able to plan an elaborate fête. If you are already in debt, it will only get worse if you take on a bigger obligation that can stick with you for years to come, affecting your credit rating.

 

You can always go to City Hall or plan an economical wedding.

 

Spend time on ways to build a long and happy marriage, which is more important than spending money you don’t have on the wedding. ##

 

Would you pay $350.00 to attend a wedding? Please leave your comment below.

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Years ago, I was watching a program where the host asked a celebrity, “What was the secret to his long marriage.” His answer was simple, “Stay Off Talk Shows.”

 

Talk shows gave viewers a glimpse into the personal lives of famous and not so well-known people. And selected guests did not think twice when it came to airing their dirty laundry on TV. As a result, relationships ended because people just could not keep what goes on in their boudoir behind locked doors.

 

How times have changed when it came to the arrival of the Internet, which can be a positive platform for promoting good relationships. But there is a darker side when people become careless and lax about what they will say online without realizing the consequences by using social media to comment on their personal escapades. It is not just celebrities who broadcast their various exploits, but ordinary folks who believe it is okay to share their activities and advice to the entire world.

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Remember, what you put on social media stays there endlessly. Always think before you expose the latest about your relationship because once you say something, you will never be able to take it back.

It's Only a Date by Vivienne Diane Neal

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When you meet someone on a dating app or in person, sparks may fly. You have only known that person for a split second and decide to go on your first date and see that date as an invitation into forming an immediate romantic relationship, without ever allowing yourself time to get to know that person.

Women often talk about the men they keep meeting on various dating apps. When these men take them out to dinner on the first date and foot the bill, they automatically assume that a relationship is about to grow. It was not a date but a footpath to a one-night stand. Most women cannot understand why they keep attracting these frame of mind men. And this is where examining the men’s personal profiles is extremely important. 

When a man is just seeking a sexual encounter, a friend with benefits or just a one-night stand, somewhere in his personal profile, he will let it be known. But if you are not interested in a sexual relationship early on, then you must be forthright and let the man know what you will or will not do on a first date.

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Now when you decide to compose an online profile, there are key words which you can use as a guide to help you weed out those just looking-for-sex. Mention what type of relationship you are interested in and be honest. If you are seeking a friendship, a long or short-term relationship, a marriage-minded person, a life-time partner, or an activity partner without the sex, then say so. You want to make a first-rate impression and catch the attention of the kind of person you are interested in attracting, or the one who will ascribe to the same attributes and interests that you are seeking. These words can include give, describe, mention, highlight, inform, be and when. Of course, you may come up with other terms to help create an appealing summary of yourself, a summary that won’t say, “I am only interested in a sexual relationship.”

 

Finding the right person on dating apps can be daunting but using common sense when searching through profiles and reading between the lines will save you disappointments on that first date. Of course, you can always go Dutch treat. This way there will be no misunderstandings or soaring expectations from the man’s end.

Will A Robot Be Your Next Date? By Miss Know It All

Miss Know It All  

The idea of robots or AI (Artificial Intelligence) being someone's date is a captivating and an intricate topic. As AI technology progresses, it is possible that AI companions could provide meaningful companionship, emotional support, and even simulate romantic interactions. In fact, there are already examples of AI chatbots. Chatbots simulate human conversations and offer companionship and emotional support to users.

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However, sincere human relationships are built on mutual understanding, shared experiences, and emotional depth. While AI can mimic several aspects of these interactions, it lacks true emotions and consciousness. So, while AI can be a supportive and engaging companion, it may never fully replace the unique and profound connections that humans can form with each other. 

What do you think about the idea of AI companions in romantic roles? Please, leave your comments below. 

The Art of Enjoyable Lovemaking: A Journey to Intimacy and Connection

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Lovemaking is an intimate expression of affection that transcends mere physical interaction, weaving together emotional, mental, and spiritual threads to create a tapestry of connection between partners. Enjoyable lovemaking is not only about physical pleasure but also about deepening the bond and understanding between two people. Here’s how couples can enhance their intimate experiences and cultivate a fulfilling love life.

Communication is Key

Open and honest communication is the cornerstone of enjoyable lovemaking. Partners should feel comfortable discussing their desires, boundaries, and fantasies. This dialogue fosters trust and ensures that both individuals feel respected and understood. Regular conversations about intimacy can help partners navigate their evolving needs and preferences, leading to more satisfying experiences.

Prioritize Emotional Connection

Emotional intimacy is as crucial as physical intimacy. Spending quality time together outside the bedroom, sharing experiences, and nurturing emotional bonds can significantly enhance the quality of lovemaking. When partners feel emotionally connected, it translates into a more profound and meaningful physical connection.

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Create a Comfortable Environment

Setting the right mood can make a significant difference in the lovemaking experience. A comfortable, inviting environment helps partners relax and focus on each other. Consider soft lighting, calming music, or scented candles to create a soothing atmosphere that encourages relaxation and presence.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness in lovemaking involves being fully present in the moment, paying attention to each sensation, and being attuned to your partner’s responses. This practice can deepen the connection and heighten pleasure, as both partners are more aware of and responsive to each other’s needs.

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Explore and Experiment

Variety is the spice of life, and this holds true for lovemaking as well. Exploring new techniques, trying different settings, or incorporating elements of play can keep the experience exciting and fresh. It is essential to approach experimentation with an open mind and a sense of fun, ensuring that both partners are comfortable with any new activities.

Take Your Time

Rushing through lovemaking can diminish the experience. Taking the time to savor each moment, focusing on foreplay, and enjoying the journey rather than just the destination can lead to more fulfilling encounters. Slow, deliberate actions allow partners to fully engage with each other, enhancing intimacy and pleasure.

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Focus on Mutual Pleasure

Enjoyable lovemaking is about mutual satisfaction. Paying attention to your partner’s cues and responses ensures that both individuals derive pleasure from the experience. This mutual focus fosters a sense of equality and partnership, enhancing the overall connection.

Embrace Vulnerability

Lovemaking is a vulnerable act, and embracing this vulnerability can bring partners closer together. Being open about insecurities or fears can strengthen trust and deepen the emotional bond. When partners support each other in their vulnerabilities, it creates a safe space for exploration and growth.

In conclusion, enjoyable lovemaking is a multifaceted experience that goes beyond physical pleasure. By prioritizing communication, emotional connection, and mutual satisfaction, couples can cultivate a rich and fulfilling intimate life. It is a journey of exploration and discovery, where each encounter offers an opportunity to deepen the bond and celebrate the unique connection between partners.

7 Strategic Uses for Your Wedding Gift Money by Claire Wentz

 

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A wedding is not just a celebration of love but also a pivotal moment to plan for a shared future. The gifts you receive can be more than sentimental; they can be the cornerstone of your financial journey together. By channeling these funds into strategic investments, you can enhance your educational prospects, secure financial stability, and even contribute to your community. This approach not only strengthens your bond but also sets the stage for a prosperous life together.

Investing Wedding Gifts in Your Education

Consider using your wedding gift money to pursue an online degree as a strategic investment in your future. Online education offers the flexibility to study at your own pace, making it easier to balance work and family commitments while advancing your career. By earning a master’s degree in nursing, you can explore diverse career paths such as nurse education, informatics, administration, or advanced practice roles. This not only enhances your professional prospects but also increases your earning potential, contributing to a stable and prosperous future together. Take a look at the MSN degree program overview to get an idea of how to get started.

Help Others Get an Education

Consider channeling your wedding gift money into a scholarship fund that bears your names, creating a meaningful legacy that supports educational growth in your community. By establishing a scholarship, you not only celebrate your union but also open doors for students who might otherwise miss out on educational opportunities. Platforms like Bold.org simplify the process, allowing individuals and businesses to create scholarships that reflect their values and aspirations. You can opt for an endowed scholarship, where the principal remains invested, and the interest is used to support students annually, ensuring a lasting impact.

Grow Your Money with Smart Savings

To make the most of your wedding gift money, consider opening a high-yield savings account dedicated to your emergency fund. These accounts often offer interest rates that significantly exceed the national average, allowing your savings to grow more quickly. While accessing funds from an online savings account might require a transfer to a checking account, this extra step can help you avoid spending on non-essential items. By placing your emergency fund in a high-yield account, you not only protect your financial future but also benefit from compound interest, which can substantially increase your balance over time.

Ensure a Debt-Free Future

Using your wedding gift money to kickstart a debt repayment plan can be a smart move for your financial future. By choosing a strategy like the debt avalanche or debt snowball, you can systematically address your debts, either by focusing on high-interest debts first or by quickly eliminating smaller debts for a motivational boost. The debt avalanche method helps reduce the total interest paid over time, while the debt snowball method offers psychological benefits by providing quick wins. Whichever approach you choose, dedicating your wedding gifts to these plans can speed up your journey to financial stability, allowing you to focus on your future goals together.

Use Smart Investment Strategies

Using your wedding gift money wisely can set the foundation for long-term financial stability. Consider investing in mutual funds or exchange-traded funds (ETFs) to grow your wealth over time. Mutual funds are actively managed, offering the potential to outperform market indices, while ETFs provide a cost-effective way to gain broad market exposure, reducing investment costs and capital gains taxes. By diversifying your portfolio with a mix of these funds, you can balance risk and reward, aligning with your long-term financial goals such as retirement savings.

Plan For Travel

Using your wedding gift money to set aside funds for travel and shared experiences is a meaningful way to invest in your relationship and create lasting memories. Instead of spending it all on material items, consider designating a portion for trips, weekend getaways, or special activities that allow you to explore new places and enjoy quality time together. Traveling as a couple fosters deeper connection, strengthens communication, and brings excitement to your marriage. Whether it’s a dream honeymoon, an anniversary retreat, or spontaneous adventures, these shared experiences will not only enrich your bond but also provide cherished memories that last a lifetime.

Boost Your Credit Score

Using part of your wedding gift money to pay off outstanding medical bills is a smart financial move that can provide peace of mind and a solid foundation for your marriage. Medical debt can quickly accumulate interest and, if left unpaid, may negatively impact your credit score, making it more challenging to achieve future financial goals such as buying a home or securing a loan. By addressing these expenses early, you reduce financial stress and free up more of your budget for shared experiences, savings, and future investments.

Thoughtful investment of your wedding gift money can pave the way for a secure and fulfilling future. These decisions not only enhance your financial health but also strengthen your partnership, setting the stage for a lifetime of shared success.

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A Valuable Tip for Single Men

Romance Author and Relationship Coach Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku shares a vital tip for single men.

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Navigating the Deepfake Dilemma in Online Dating

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The advent of digital technology has revolutionized the way we connect, communicate, and even find love. Online dating platforms have become a popular avenue for meeting potential partners, offering convenience and a wide pool of choices. However, with these advancements come new challenges, particularly the emergence of deepfakes, which pose significant risks in the realm of online dating.

Deepfakes are synthetic media in which a person's likeness is digitally altered or replaced using artificial intelligence (AI) and machine learning techniques. These sophisticated manipulations can create highly realistic videos, images, or audio recordings, making it challenging to discern authenticity. While deepfakes have been used creatively in entertainment and art, their potential misuse, especially in online dating, raises serious concerns.

A person can use an image and make it sexually explicit, done to embarrass the person, usually women or exact revenge against that individual.

Unfortunately, this is a growing phenomenon and very few states have laws preventing deepfakes. Several states in the US have passed or are considering legislation to regulate deepfakes. These laws address issues related to nonconsensual sexual deepfakes and the use of deepfakes in political campaigns. California has been a pioneer in deepfake regulation, allowing victims of non-consensual deepfake pornography to sue creators. States have laws protecting people who have been affected by this invasion of privacy.

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There are ways to protect yourself against becoming a victim of deepfake:

The Risks of Deepfakes in Online Dating

1. Identity Deception: One of the most alarming aspects of deepfakes is their ability to deceive users by impersonating individuals with uncanny accuracy. Malicious actors can create fake profiles using stolen images and videos, luring unsuspecting users into interactions under false pretenses. This not only violates privacy but can also lead to emotional harm and financial frauds.

2. Erosion of Trust: Trust is a fundamental part of any relationship. The presence of deepfakes in online dating can breed skepticism, making it difficult for individuals to trust the authenticity of potential partners. The fear of being deceived by a deepfake can hinder genuine connections and create an atmosphere of doubt and suspicion.

3. Exploitation and Extortion: Deepfakes can be weaponized for extortion, where manipulated content is used to threaten or coerce individuals. In the context of online dating, intimate or compromising deepfake content can be created and used against individuals, leading to emotional distress and reputational damage.

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Protecting Yourself from Deepfakes

1. Verify Identities: Always verify the identity of the person you are communicating with. Use video calls to confirm their identity and be cautious if they consistently avoid face-to-face interactions. Additionally, cross-reference their social media profiles to ensure consistency in their online presence.

2. Educate Yourself: Familiarize yourself with the signs of deepfakes. While they can be highly convincing, subtle inconsistencies in lighting, facial expressions, or voice modulation may show manipulation. Staying informed about the latest advancements in deepfake technology will enhance your ability to detect potential deceptions.

3. Report Suspicious Activity: If you meet a profile or content that raises suspicion, report it to the dating platform at once. Most reputable platforms have measures in place to investigate and address fraudulent activities. Engaging with the platform can help protect not only yourself but also other users.

4. Promote Digital Literacy: Encourage conversations about digital literacy within your community. Raising awareness about the existence and implications of deepfakes can empower others to approach online interactions with caution and discernment.

The Role of Technology and Regulation

As deepfake technology continues to evolve, one must also take measures to counteract its misuse. Online dating platforms are increasingly investing in AI-driven tools to detect and mitigate deepfake content. Collaboration between technology companies, regulators, and law enforcement agencies is essential to set up frameworks that protect users from digital deception.

In conclusion, while deepfakes present a formidable challenge in the world of online dating, awareness and vigilance are key to safeguarding oneself from their potential harms. For additional information on how you can safeguard yourself from deepfakes, go to https://cybercivilrights.org/

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