Topics You Should Avoid Discussing on a First Date by Miss Know It All

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I must say, my first dates went great. But not all first dates end well when discussing certain subjects.

Here are seven topics you might want to avoid on a first date to keep things light and enjoyable:

Politics - This can be a very polarizing topic and might lead to heated debates.

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Religion - Like politics, religious beliefs can be deeply personal and potentially contentious.

Ex-relationships - Talking about past relationships can make things awkward and might give the impression that you are not over your ex.

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Money - Discussions about finances can come off as intrusive or materialistic.

Sex - This can be too forward and make the other person uncomfortable.

Personal insecurities - Sharing too much too soon about your insecurities can be overwhelming.

Future plans for marriage and kids - While important, these topics might be too heavy for a first date:

Concentrate on having fun and engaging in topics like hobbies, travel experiences, favorite movies or books, and interesting anecdotes from your life. This helps keep the conversation light and enjoyable, allowing you both to get to know each other better in a comfortable setting. 💞

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Why Your Honesty Is A Turn Off - Relationship Expert Warns Against A Huge Mistake You Are Making On Your First Date

We always hear that honesty is the best policy. I even heard a well-known actor state, “Always tell the truth and you’ll never have to tell a lie.” Being entirely too frank may not be wise on your date.

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Dating expert Louanne Ward feels you should not be 'too honest' on a first date. People do not need to know if you snore, talk to your mother, or know your body count. 'We have all been taught that honesty is the best policy, but there is a difference between being honest and oversharing, and every date is a screening exercise for both parties. Every question you answer and every bit of information you give is data collected by your date to find your date-ability score.'

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Louanne explained, 'The only way you are going to get a second date is to have a high date-ability score and you will not get that by sharing useless information.'

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Ward offered some advice on what to say and what not to say on a first date:

·       Do not share how many dates you have been on.

·       Keep your mouth closed and let the other person do the talking so you can gather the information. 

·       Reveal private information on a need-to-know basis.

·       Not every date needs to know the ins and outs of your life.

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Significant Questions to Ask on A First Date by Miss Know It All

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Who said dating is fun? It can be if you know how to conduct yourself on a first date. Meeting someone on a dating app can be challenging. However, what happens when the person you are smitten with meets in person, face to face? It can be hard-hitting. After all, you really know little about this person because your interactions have been through texting. While it is easy to get comfortable sending texts to each other and sharing stories about yourselves, the test comes when you and your crush plan your first date. What will the conversation be? Will it be a success or a total flop? Fortunately, there are never-ending first date questions that will help you learn a lot about each other and maybe land a second date.

Asking questions during a first date are signs you are interested and engaged in the conversation, but asking too many questions may make the date seem like an interview, which can feel daunting. Drop inquiries here and there to fill gaps in the conversation and to avoid uncomfortable quietness. With little effort, you will create a very natural connection. Following are some great first date questions to ask during the date:

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Questions for the First Couple of Minutes

If you do not know each other, this is the part of the date where you are both nervous and maybe feeling a little awkward. While it might be tough to come up with some questions, sometimes just sticking to the basics is enough.

How was your day?

Tell me more about yourself.

Where do you work?

Do you have any plans for the future?

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After Breaking the Ice

Once you are more at ease and you want to spend more time with this person, you are ready to get to know him/her better. Some fun and simple questions can help liven up the conversation.

What do you do for fun?

What is your favorite TV show/movie?

What TV show did you last binge-watch?

What was the best concert you have ever been to?

Who is your favorite singer/musician/band?

Do you have a favorite book or a favorite author?

Do you have any pets?

What is your favorite place to go to around town?

What is your go-to place for takeout?

What is your favorite sport? Who is your favorite professional sports team?

Do you prefer the indoors or the outdoors?

If you won the lottery, what would you buy?

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When You Want More Information

After getting to know more about the person’s personality, it is time to bring up deeper questions. This is the time to ask more ‘make it or break it’ questions that can help you figure out if you may want a relationship with this individual, or maybe another date.

What is your dream job? 

Are you close to your family?

Are you a morning person or a night person?

What is on your bucket list?

What is your biggest guilty pleasure?

If you could move to another country, where would it be?

Are there any hobbies or subjects that you would like to learn?

Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?

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When the Night Is Almost Over

It’s time to decide whether you want to lengthen your first date, possibly go on a second date, or just call it a night and move on. Ask some more intimate questions now that you are both more comfortable, and see if things might work out between you two.

What are your goals?

What is most important to you?

What do you see your future like?

Where do you see yourself in five years?

What are you most passionate about?

What are some of your biggest pet peeves?

What do you fear?

Do you have any regrets?

What is your proudest accomplishment in life?

Who inspires you?

How would you describe yourself in three words?

How would you describe me in three words?

What was your first impression of me?

What made you want to go on this date?

What do you consider some warning signs in a relationship?

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When it is Time to Go

If you feel the dating is a bust, end your relationship with your date instantly. If you are hoping to secure a second date, then these questions can help him or she get the hint.

Did you have a good time tonight?

Are you busy later this week?

Do you want to hang out again?

Can I send you a text later?

Do you want to split the check or want me to pick up the next one?

Would you want to check out a restaurant or movie sometime?

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Things You Should Never Talk About or Do on a First Date by Miss Know It All

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A first date is an initial meeting between two individuals, whether they have previously known each other or not. An effort is made to ask questions and get to know if they can form a relationship. The goal is to plan a loving connection, finding a romantic or sexual partner for a short time, or seeking a long-term partner or spouse.

Your first date can be a wonderful experience or it can end up being a disastrous event.  So, you want to be on your best behavior and make a good impression. This is not to say there will be a second date, but the last thing you want to do is sabotage your meeting by doing or saying something that will kill your chances of having more dates. If you want to have a date to remember, which will lead to a second, third and fourth date, there are topics you should never discuss and an act you should never do on that first date.

·       Don't ask are you seeing anyone.

·       Why did your last relationship end?

·       Do you still talk to your ex?

·       When it comes to certain topics, avoid discussing politics, and religion. It can get very intense. Reserve that when you have known the person for a longer period.

·       Never talk about how bad your ex was. You will come over as a resentful individual.

·       Leave financial information off the table.

·       If you are a parent, don't bring your children into the conversation.

·       Don't ask personal questions, namely - what is your ethnic background? For People of Color this can be a thoughtless question.

·       Don't discuss your sexual adventures. A lot could be read into this. You could be seen as someone who is just looking for a one night stand or seeking a friend with benefits.

·       Don't tell the person that you are ready to get married and have children. Wait until you have established some sort of relationship before treading into this territory.

·       Don’t text or talk on your smartphone. It’s rude.

·       Never have sex on the first date. With the surge of STDs, HIV, and AIDS, the last thing you want to do is play Russian roulette with your life.