|Sharon and her husband Rick|
But most important is the willingness to give--a must in every relationship, but especially marriage. Out of desperation for companionship, even the most selfish person can show generosity to the point that it resembles love. This is why the old fashioned courtship rules were put in place. Heard of them? Meet the parents (they’ll spot a phony a mile away), the long courtship (you can only fake it for so long), intimacy stays in check (sex–especially if there’s a child, bonds you to a jerk forever). Having family and friends acquainted with the prospective mate, the person whose head is in a romantic haze might avoid countless years of misery just by listening to their counsel. If the family isn’t too dysfunctional or the friends too weird, it can actually work!
Speaking of romantic haze, it’s important to keep the candlelight and thrills on hand, even if only on occasion. We need it to keep ourselves from finding it elsewhere. But when life seems naught but drudgery, we should learn (as I am doing) to see what kind or what level of romance we do have and appreciate it. Mine leans toward the broader sense. My husband and I are in show business. That alone is romantic. We met on stage and together we have more than we ever had working solo. It’s rough going at times, and though our life generally lacks flowers and candlelight, where we’re going we’re going together. I guess that’s pretty romantic. Yeah. That’s not bad at all.