Why Being Financially Coordinated is Crucial for Couples by Vivienne Diane Neal

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We hear all the time; money is one of the reasons for breakups. Couples often face financial stressors that can strain their relationship. Here are eight reasons why money can lead to breakups:

1. Couples may have different attitudes toward money, spending, and saving. If these values clash, it can create tension and disagreements.
2. When partners have vastly different income levels or spending habits, it can cause resentment. For instance, one partner may feel burdened by the other’s financial choices.
3. Elevated levels of debt, unemployment, or financial instability can lead to stress and arguments. Couples may blame each other for their financial difficulties.
4. Not discussing financial matters openly can lead to misunderstandings. Hidden debts, overspending, or financial secrets can erode trust.
5. If one partner controls the finances or makes unilateral decisions, it can create feelings of powerlessness and resentment.
6. Like emotional or physical infidelity, financial infidelity occurs when one partner hides money-related actions (e.g., secret accounts, overspending).
7. Major life events (e.g., buying a house, having children, retirement) require financial adjustments. If couples are not aligned, it can strain the relationship.
8. Open communication about money helps prevent misunderstandings and ensures that both partners are aware of each other’s financial situation.

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Remember that open communication, compromise, and shared financial goals are essential for keeping a healthy relationship. If you are experiencing financial challenges, consider seeking professional advice or counseling together. Remember, financial harmony can lead to greater marital satisfaction and overall happiness. 😊💙

 

Money Management Tips for Singles and Couples by Vivienne Diane Neal

Managing your money doesn’t just involve finances but understanding when to implement important legal documents. When planning your personal or business objectives, there will come a time when a legal document, whether simple or complex, will be extremely vital.

Following are some legal documents pertaining to personal finance, estate planning, power of attorney, and real estate planning.

This guide will help you to understand and select the document that will best meet your particular needs. Of course, when planning to execute any legal document, it is a good idea to consult an attorney.

Personal Finance

Check Stop Payment - request to a bank not to honor a particular check.

Lost Credit Card Notice - letter to a Credit Card Company from the cardholder requesting the halt in credit.

Promissory Note - a promise to pay a principal sum plus interest.

Request for Credit Report - a letter to reporting agency for full and complete disclosure of credit file.

Request Under Freedom of Information - letter to any government agency that may keep files on individuals.

Estate Planning Documents

Codicil - an amendment to an original Will that changes or modifies a Will.

Last Will and Testament - a legal document that sets forth the wishes of the testator after his or her death. This document distributes the property of the testator and appoints representatives to administer the estate.

Organ Donation - a document that specifies the wishes of an organ donor.

Premarital Agreement - a written contract between intended spouses, which provides for the division of property, income, and responsibilities to each other and their child or children should the marriage ends in divorce or other means.

Revocable Living Trust - a trust established while alive also known as an “inter vivos” trust that can be revoked.

Power Of Attorney Documents

General Power Of Attorney - an instrument authorizing one person to act on behalf of another, usually in signing legal documents and in making legal decisions.

POA (Power of Attorney) Delegating Parental Authority - appoints a custodian for a minor child or children and specifies custodian’s powers.

Revocation of Power Attorney - a notarized statement by principal rescinding appointment of power of attorney.

Specific Power of Attorney - appoints an attorney-in-fact to perform a specific action on behalf of the grantor.

Real Estate Documents

Claim Of Lien - notifies third parties of a monetary interest in property where work was performed.

Commercial Lease - an agreement to rent commercial property.

Demand For Rent - a document designed to give a tenant a final opportunity to pay overdue rents before the landlord may commence eviction proceedings.

Discharge Of Mortgage - a mortgage holder’s release of the mortgagor.

Mortgage Deed - a borrower gives mortgage covenants to the lender in consideration of a loan.

Offer To Purchase Real Estate - a document used when a buyer is presenting an offer to purchase real estate from a seller.

Quitclaim Deed - a document which transfers title to real estate.

Residential Lease - an agreement to rent residential property.

Sublease - an agreement between tenant, landlord, and subtenant to sublet premises currently under lease to a tenant that retains tenant’s liability.

Waiver Of Lien - lien holder releases all rights to claim any liens for work done or materials furnished.

Warranty Deed - land conveyed with warranty covenants providing assurance of title. 

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Simple Money-Saving Tips for Singles and Couples by Vivienne Diane Neal

No matter how much money a person makes or has, there never seems to be enough. It is important to remember that the good times do not last forever, and one must always save for a rainy day.  Even if you put aside a set amount of money every week, there are no guarantees that you will have enough on hand if some unforeseen setback arises.

People used to say, “Another day another dollar.” Nowadays, that dollar has shrunk to where stretching a buck seems to be a challenging task. Food prices and other necessities seem to be going up, but earnings are not keeping up with inflation. Interest rates on savings are near zilch. Unemployment is still high in certain regions of the country, and many companies are cutting back on employees’ benefits, namely health insurance, paid sick leave, or are contributing less to retirement funds. But you can boost your money. By following these simple tips, you will end up saving and having more money in no time, and when you are ready, start investing in the stock market to receive more of a return on your money. No matter what people say, pennies add up.

Tip No. 1 - Try to live below your means. This may not be easy if you are making large sums of money. The old adage: the more you make, the more you can spend is not being financially sound, especially in today’s economy. You may not need three cars, five pairs of sneakers, twenty pairs of shoes, fifty handbags or a sixty-inch TV in every room. If you have all of these items, you may want to sell some of these things and earn extra cash. Even the rich must cut back at some point.

Tip No. 2 - There is a difference between want, and need. You may want to buy an expensive item, but that extravagant piece is not worth the price if you end up in debt. You do need food, clothing, and shelter. You can cut back on food and still get all your required nutrients, and buy low-priced clothing and still look fashionable. There is no need to spend $200.00 on a blouse. It in all probability, the top cost $2.00 to make, and the person who constructs that shirt may only make one dollar or less a day.

Tip No. 3 - When it comes to your home, you can cut back on your gas and electric bills. Use energy efficient incandescent or florescent light bulbs. Never leave lights on in unoccupied rooms. You can save money if you do your laundry before 10 am and after 10 pm, while there is no heavy demand on the electrical system. You will save money if you wash your laundry in cold or warm water. Using hot water all the time can be costly. An overloaded washer will use more energy; the same is true for an under loaded washer. A front-loading washer uses less energy and water than a top-loading washer does. You will save money if you dry your clothes on a clothesline. To avoid ironing, hang your clothes in the bathroom while you are showering; often, the steam will remove the wrinkles.

Tip No. 4 - Test your refrigerator to make sure you are not losing energy. Place a sheet of paper at the base of the refrigerator and close the door. If the paper slips out, replace the gasket. Vacuum the coils of your refrigerator to remove dust. Too much dust can cause your refrigerator to generate more power and a higher utility bill. Set the refrigerator temperature at 32 degrees Fahrenheit and the freezer at zero degrees Fahrenheit, and keep the freezer packed or packed with bags of ice to prevent waste of energy. Never let ice build up in the freezer. It is time to defrost the freezer when the ice is l/4 inch thick.

Tip No. 5 - Use your automatic dishwasher when you have a full load. You can set the water temperature at 120 degrees Fahrenheit instead of 140 degrees Fahrenheit. Setting at 120 degrees Fahrenheit will destroy the bacteria. Instead of using the drying cycle, open the door and air-dry the dishes.

Tip No. 6 - Your oven uses less energy than the top burners. A convection oven uses less energy than a conventional oven. A microwave uses energy economically and cooks food quickly.  Copper and aluminum bottom pots and pans are excellent conductors of heat and great energy savers. Cast iron pans hold heat longer and can be removed from the burner during the last ten minutes to allow the heat to finish cooking.

Tip No. 7 - Turn off the air conditioner in an unoccupied room. Set your air condition at 78 degrees to keep the room temperature comfortable. Always clean the filter at least once a month. A fan uses less energy than an air conditioner.

Tip No. 8 - When you buy major appliances, look for the highest energy-efficiency ratio. The higher the number, the less money it will cost to operate that appliance.

Tip No. 9 - Repair leaky faucets. Every drop of water lost means more money out of your pocket.

Tip No. 10 - Having health coverage is fundamental. The Affordable Care Act puts consumers back in charge of their health care. Under the law, a new “Patient’s Bill of Rights” gives the American people the stability and flexibility they need to make informed choices about their health. To read the full law, click here. To find detailed technical and regulatory information on the the Patient’s Bill of Rights, click here. Health insurance may not seem important when you are a young adult, but as one gets older, the need for health care and coverage becomes even more important, and to find an affordable health care plan can be daunting. There are programs such as Medicaid for the needy, and Medicare for people age 65 and over. When it comes to buying prescription drugs, you can comparison shop. Not all pharmacies are the same when it comes to pricing drugs. Consider generic pills, which cost less than most brand name drugs. By purchasing generic medicines, you can save a lot of money, sometimes up to 75%. Many pharmacies offer discounts to senior citizens, which can add up to real savings. You may save money by using a mail-service or mail order pharmacy, especially if you take one or more drugs regularly. Some pharmaceutical companies have programs that will assist people who may be on low, limited or fixed incomes. For your dental care, consider a dental school where students under strict supervision work on your teeth, and you will save a great deal of money. If you need oral surgery, only a licensed dentist will perform the procedure, but the cost will be less than if you go to a private dentist.

Tip No. 11 - If you are working, try to save up to twelve months in emergency funds. If you can save more, fine.  It used to be six months, but it is best to be on the safe side.

Tip No. 12 - Lastly, never bite off more than you can chew. If you want something, and you cannot afford it, wait until you can or do without it.

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Watching Your Finances While Dating By Miss Know It All

Miss Know It All

A woman meets a man on an online dating site, and it is love at first sight. Before you know it, he is asking to borrow money. How many women lend or give money to men who are forever broke, unemployed, or behind in their child support payments.

This is not to say that men do not suffer from throwing your money after bad syndrome. However, this scenario seems to be more common among women who are willing to take over a grown man’s financial obligations. Suddenly, the man is gone with the cash; the woman is in a financial bind and has to chase him down like a bounty hunter or end up in small claims court to try to recoup her money.

Why so many women put themselves in this type of predicament is unknown. Maybe it is the need to be a nurturer or the fear of being alone. When you lend or give money to anyone, you are doing a disservice to yourself, by putting that individual first and you last.  

A man of integrity and good character will never ask you for money to help pay his debts or to buy him a big-ticket item. If he is financially sound and responsible, he will not need your money to make ends meet. On the other hand, if he is looking for a cash withdrawal machine, or is out to be a moocher, he will let you know right from the start. There will be no beating around the bush on his end.

When you meet a man and decide to date him, and within seconds, he is asking you for a loan to help purchase a car, because he has bad credit, it means, he does not pay his bills. In all likelihood, you will never see your money.

No one is saying you should never help the love of your life. If he were going through a financial crisis, you would be there for him, but only if he has given as much as you have.