It's Only a Date by Vivienne Diane Neal

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When you meet someone on a dating app or in person, sparks may fly. You have only known that person for a split second and decide to go on your first date and see that date as an invitation into forming an immediate romantic relationship, without ever allowing yourself time to get to know that person.

Women often talk about the men they keep meeting on various dating apps. When these men take them out to dinner on the first date and foot the bill, they automatically assume that a relationship is about to grow. It was not a date but a footpath to a one-night stand. Most women cannot understand why they keep attracting these frame of mind men. And this is where examining the men’s personal profiles is extremely important. 

When a man is just seeking a sexual encounter, a friend with benefits or just a one-night stand, somewhere in his personal profile, he will let it be known. But if you are not interested in a sexual relationship early on, then you must be forthright and let the man know what you will or will not do on a first date.

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Now when you decide to compose an online profile, there are key words which you can use as a guide to help you weed out those just looking-for-sex. Mention what type of relationship you are interested in and be honest. If you are seeking a friendship, a long or short-term relationship, a marriage-minded person, a life-time partner, or an activity partner without the sex, then say so. You want to make a first-rate impression and catch the attention of the kind of person you are interested in attracting, or the one who will ascribe to the same attributes and interests that you are seeking. These words can include give, describe, mention, highlight, inform, be and when. Of course, you may come up with other terms to help create an appealing summary of yourself, a summary that won’t say, “I am only interested in a sexual relationship.”

 

Finding the right person on dating apps can be daunting but using common sense when searching through profiles and reading between the lines will save you disappointments on that first date. Of course, you can always go Dutch treat. This way there will be no misunderstandings or soaring expectations from the man’s end.