“You are not a bad mom if
you go out on a few dates,” says Megha Vohra who found her partner on a dating
Whether you are newly
single or returning to dating after a period of prioritizing yourself and your
kids, dating as a single parent can feel daunting.
However, with honesty,
clear communication, and good boundaries, getting back out there can be super
fun and fulfilling.
Megha Vohra, a single
mother, found her partner on Bumble, a woman-friendly dating app, during the
lockdown in 2020. As a mother of two lovely kids, she challenged antiquated
societal norms and has been in a successful relationship with her partner for
Megha, who works as a human
design coach, shares a few tips on how to navigate your dating journey as a
1. Move on - The
circumstances that led to you being a single parent could be distressing or
devastating. However, this is another chance for you to learn from your
experiences and get it right. Before you decide to anchor in with someone, have
a relationship with yourself. Give yourself all the love you can, and
eventually, that light will attract the right person for you.
2. Be open to possibilities
- There might be reasons that hold you back from starting over. Sometimes you
might meet people who are not a great fit for you, or sometimes you will hold
yourself back. The key is to be you and keep an open mind about adapting to new
ways of life. Do not feel guilty for choosing and prioritizing yourself for a
few hours in a day or week. You are not a terrible mom if you go out on a few
3. Be transparent with your
children - If you are thinking of dating as a single mother, have a chat with
your kids about the possibility that you might fall in love with someone and
help them be open to you about their feelings. Being open with your children is
the best gift you can give yourself. Remember, your kids always come first.
However, they love to see their parents happy.
4. Know when to introduce your partner to your kids - You do not need to introduce someone right away. Take your time and let it happen organically. Try to introduce the person as a friend first and gradually move on to your romantic involvement. Dating as a single mom involves a bit more work, and with fewer opportunities to chat and hang out, developing a relationship can be a slow burn.
The upside is that the connections you make are likely to be built on more solid foundations, making them worth the extra effort. Give yourself the freedom to choose the life you want and you will get yourself the right life partner!