You and your best friend have known each other
since childhood. You share everything, namely the same values, respect for each
other’s ideas, opinions, beliefs, hopes, and dreams. You may not always agree
with each other, but your friendship has withstood the time. And no matter what
happens, good or bad, you’ll always be there to cover each other’s back.
Your parents have been divorced for years. Whether
it’s your mother or father, eventually one of them may find someone, and start
to date. And you’re okay with that because everyone deserves to have someone
who is going to make them happy.
But suddenly, you discover that one of your parents
is seeing your best friend. And now all hell has broken loose, because you
believe that your comrade has betrayed you for having the audacity to date one
of your parents. But one has to ask the following question: Why should you feel
deceived because your parent is dating your best friend, who by the way happens
to be over 18 years of age? There are no easy answers. But if you’re ever
caught in this type of situation, consider the following:
If they share the same interests, that’s a good
start, and if it’s a May-December romance, there is nothing you can do to
change the person’s age. So live with it.
Remember, your parent and friend are adults, and
have the right to see each other, whether you like it or not, as long as both
parties are consenting adults.
If you really know and trust your best friend,
there shouldn’t be a problem with your friend dating your parent.
Give your mother or father enough credit for having
the good sense and excellent taste to have selected your friend as his or her
companion. If you enjoy being around your friend, why shouldn’t your mother or
father have the same privilege?
If you have a problem with your best friend dating
your parent, ask yourself why; is there something wrong with your parent or
your best friend? Do they have emotional, physical or psychological problems
that can damage the relationship; are they bank robbers, ax murderers or serial
killers? You get the picture!!!
Keep in mind, at this stage of the relationship, they
are only dating, having fun and enjoying each other’s company; they are not planning
to move in together, or run off to Las Vegas to tie the knot. And if
it ever gets to this phase, you can serve as their wedding planner. After all,
who knows your friend’s or parent’s idiosyncrasies better than you do?
The question you should ask yourself is: how
important is this relationship to my parent and my best friend; remember it’s
not all about you. This is not the time to be self-centered.
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