I am not
one to tell a parent how he or she should act when it comes to their legal age
son or daughter’s love life. However, there are exceptions. If the person he or
she is involved with presents an imminent danger or is on America ’s Most Wanted List then, by all
means, take action.
Other
than that, when it comes to your adult child’s liaison, try and stay in your
own lane unless he or she asks for your advice. And even when they ask for your
opinion, you must tread very lightly, depending on your answer. Because based
on what we see or hear day in and day out from parents and children, friends
and relatives, most people don’t really want your advice, especially if the
kind of guidance, which they don’t want to hear.
One way
to alienate someone is to continue hopping on the same subject: he is going to
break your heart; she is only after your money; why would you want to be with
someone who has a criminal record or is behind his or her child’s support? And
then there are those who don’t like your partner because of his or her color,
ethnicity, religion, lifestyle or political affiliation. Or without any rhyme
or reason, will never accept your significant other.
Most of
us have been in this type of situation where you know the person your daughter
or son is involved with is a good for nothing idiot but your son or daughter
can’t see this or opts to be in denial.
Depending
on how old the man or woman is, he or she may make mistakes when it comes to
selecting a soul mate, and hopefully, as they get older, they would have
learned something. But in the meantime,
try to be supportive and analyze what it is about that person you object to or
why you fill you always have to interfere with your child’s love life. Go back
to when you started dating. How did your parents react when you brought home
someone and started dating or ended up marrying that individual? Did you take
their advice or did you choose to make your own decisions? I am not a parent
but when I listen to friends and relatives, you don’t have to be one to know
what it’s like to butt into a child’s relationship.
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