Monday, March 29, 2021

The Bitter Side to Infidelity by Miss Know It All

 

Miss Know It All

A couple of years ago, I wrote about a side to infidelity that has been trending for a while. Today, more people in marriages are ‘micro-cheating,’ defined as being emotionally or physically involved with someone outside of the marriage. 

The Urban Dictionary defines ‘micro-cheating’ as behaviors considered disloyal within a relationship, nothing too serious but not too innocent either. It can be frequent flirting, touching, calling, texting, chatting, or asking someone for intimate advice, all hidden from your partner.
 
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However, when it comes to marriage, where there is physical cheating, the signs can be obvious, but as to whether your partner is micro-cheating, the messages may be vague. Moreover, if you decide to stay with that person there is no telling how that marriage will sustain itself. Many experts will recommend marriage counseling. Unfortunately, in countless cases, the damage has been done and no amount of advice will save that marriage.

Just one month after giving birth to their son, a popular talk show host revealed how she discovered her spouse was cheating on her. What tipped her off was a late-night phone call. She overheard her husband talking to another woman, who eventually became pregnant. The host’s husband even purchased an abode for the mistress and their child, but later added that the host and her husband moved on from the incident stronger than before. 

In hindsight, the host stated that she never would have believed that someone as successful as she would have stayed with a cheater, and says she does not regret staying with him for over twenty years when enough was enough. 

Remaining with a person who has committed infidelity in a marriage is a personal choice. However, as most people, who have faced a betrayal(s) in their marriage, will state, “Once a cheater, always a cheater, and generally, the marriage doesn’t get any better if you decide to remain in that union.”

Monday, March 22, 2021

A Safe Way to Date Online

Many dating sites if they have not already are adding new safety features to help protect their members, namely photo verification, in-app safety check-ins during dates, and a built-in panic button. 

 

When meeting someone online, it can be risky if you know nothing about the person. One can take many safety precautions: meeting in a well-populated place, and letting friends and family know where you will be during the date, and this is where the check-ins during dates and a built-in panic button comes in.

 

The move came about after an investigation by ProPublica and Columbia Journalism found that several popular dating apps allowed known sex offenders to use their interfaces and create accounts.

 

While most dating sites offer tips on protecting yourself when meeting someone in person, these extra features can make your dating experience a little more worry-free.

 

To check on what Tinder has been doing to update its dating apps, click here.

 

Moreover, remember, COVID-19 is still here, which means extra precautions should be taken.

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Monday, March 15, 2021

Global Adult Sex Toys Market Projected to Reach $36.1 Billion Dollars by 2027

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Amid the COVID-19 crisis, the global market for adult sex toys estimated at US$24.5 Billion in the year 2020 is expected to reach a revised size of US$36.1 Billion by 2027, growing at a CAGR (Compound Annual Growth Rate) of 5.7% over the period 2020-2027.

 

Erection Rings are projected to grow at a 4.9% CAGR to reach US$7.4 Billion by the end of the analysis period. After an early analysis of the business implications of the pandemic and its induced economic crisis, growth in the Dildos segment is readjusted to a revised 5.5% CAGR for the next 7-year period. This segment currently accounts for a 25% share of the global adult sex toys market.

 

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The U.S. accounted for over 28.9% of the global market size in 2020, while China is forecast to grow at an 8.9% CAGR for the period of 2020-2027.

 

The adult sex toys market in the U.S. was estimated at US$7.1 billion in the year 2020. The country currently accounts for a 28.92% share in the global market.

 

China, the world's second-largest economy, is forecast to reach an estimated market size of US$6.6 Billion in the year 2027, trailing a CAGR of 8.9% through 2027. Among the other noteworthy geographic markets are Japan and Canada, each forecast to grow at 3.2% and 5.2% respectively over the 2020-2027 periods.

 

Within Europe, Germany is projected to grow at approximately 3.7% CAGR while the rest of the European market will reach US$6.6 Billion by the year 2027.

 

Adult Vibrators segment corners a 42.1% share in 2020. In the global adult vibrators segment, the USA, Canada, Japan, China, and Europe will drive the 5.4% CAGR estimated for this segment. These regional markets accounting for a combined market size of US$7.8 Billion in the year 2020 will reach a projected size of US$11.2 Billion by the close of the analysis period. China will remain among the fastest-growing in this cluster of regional markets, led by countries such as Australia, India, and South Korea. The market in Asia-Pacific is predicted to reach US$4.9 Billion by the year 2027, while Latin America will expand at a 7.1% CAGR through the analysis period.

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Source: Dublin--(Business Wire)--Feb 8, 2021 

Monday, March 08, 2021

COVID-19 Testing at Weddings: What You Need to Know Now

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If you’re a New York-based couple planning a wedding right now, chances are, you’ve heard the news that New York Governor Andrew Cuomo has officially announced that wedding receptions of up to 150 people, or 50 percent of the reception venue’s capacity will be allowed so long as there is proper testing in place ahead of the event. This is huge and unexpected news for the countless engaged couples who have had to cancel, postpone, or put their wedding plans on pause over the last year. In addition to restored hope and anticipation, the recent ruling, which will go into effect on March 15, 2021, gives direction to couples and vendors on how to conduct safely a traditionally sized wedding.


While this news is most certainly a welcomed wave of normalcy in comparison to what weddings have looked like in the past 12 months, it is unfortunately not the finish line of the pandemic, notes Robert Hess III, M.P.H., public health expert and founder and Chief Executive Officer of Hess III Consulting, LLC. “Couples will still need to uphold other COVID-19 prevention measures, even at their wedding receptions, including masks, physical distance, and handwashing, which will make weddings look different this year,” he says. “This doesn’t factor in the new variants which are rapidly evolving and should be heavily considered as part of planning.” 

 

The process of carrying out a wedding that follows all of the stipulations put forth by this government ruling is also incredibly complicated. “Firstly, all events must be approved by the local health department, which means that guest safety will be monitored to ensure these weddings are being mindful of COVID measures and keeping all the guests as safe and healthy as possible,” explains Tory Smith, wedding planner and owner of Smith + James Events in Los Angeles. “It is important to remember that someone will need to monitor all the guests' test results, making sure they are all negative, as well as the fact that any guests who test positive will need to stay home and quarantine.” Smith also urges the importance of realizing that safety is paramount when it comes to these events. “It’s not just like they’re opening the floodgates back up,” she adds.

 

If you are eager to participate in the opportunity to have an actual wedding with 150 or fewer friends and family members, what do you need to consider pulling it off successfully—and safely? Here is an expert guide to what it will take to have a COVID-conscious wedding under the new stipulations.

 

What to Do Before the Wedding

 

Planning a wedding mid-pandemic means more logistics. And with new regulations, such as those recently announced by Cuomo, couples are now required to take additional measures, such as getting event approval and providing COVID-19 testing for an extended guest count.


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Get Your Application into the Health Department ASAP


Before you adjust your plans in the slightest, the smartest move to make is to reach out to your local health department to get approval to host your wedding should the number of people you intend to invite be greater than 50. “Health departments are woefully understaffed and burnt out, so it may take longer than you anticipate to hear back,” notes Hess. If you have not heard back within the expected timeframe given upon your application date, he recommends following up weekly. Once approved, make sure to keep track of whatever approval documents they give you so that you have them handy on the day of your wedding. 

 


Determine How Many People Will Be Allowed

 

"Reach out to your venues sooner rather than later to confirm the maximum capacity of the reception space that you have booked and divide that number in two to confirm how many people the new maximum will be," explains Oniki Hardtman of Oh Niki Occasions. As for the number of people: Do not forget to account for the venue wait staff and all of your vendors. "Ask each vendor how many people will be on their team the day of the wedding – for instance, photographers often have two to four people on staff depending on your package," Hardtman suggests.

 

Reassess Your Budget

 

Before you figure out the intricacies of COVID-19 testing, you will want to consider whether your budget will allow you to accommodate the process for all guests, or if you will be putting the cost and responsibility of testing on each attendee. According to Hardtman, the most economical way of being tested is through state-approved sites that are open and available to the public. If the cost of testing is a concern for you, consider making testing the responsibility of your guests. If you take this approach, we recommend researching testing sites in your area and recommending the most cost-effective options (at an Urgent Care facility or your local CVS store, for example). For detailed information about testing in New York, visit here.

 

Rumor has it that states will be releasing a system to ensure that all guests are accounted for and tested (similar to contract tracing) but details are not yet known, says Hardtman. This burden will probably fall on the couple and/or their planner. "At this point, we honestly need to wait and see but any couples that are not working with a planner should get very comfortable with spreadsheets to account for guests and their testing status," she says. "Your wedding planner or venue coordinator may need to dedicate a coordinator specifically to keeping track at the door of who has confirmed their testing status."

 

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What to Ask of Your Guests

 

While this is your wedding, every person in attendance will have to abide by the rules you and your state set in place. "If you have decided to require testing or if your area requires testing to attend events, no guest or vendor should be able to attend without providing clear negative results," Smith says.

 

Set Clear Expectations

 

For this reason, it is important to be direct with your guests. "Make sure you are very straightforward in what is required to attend the wedding," Smith says. "It's a big ask but it's important to protect all your loved ones and the vendor team. Be sure you are giving plenty of time, do your local research on options for testing, make the time window clear, and require each guest to forward on their negative results."

 

Distribute Cohesive Messaging

 

To help organize and mobilize guests to be tested before the event, the more information you can give, the better, according to Smith. She recommends sending out an informational email as well as putting thorough testing instructions and detailed safety measures on the wedding website. “Answer as many questions as you can so you're not inundated with a flurry of questions from your entire guest list,” she says. “The more information you give, the fewer questions you'll have to answer and the less overwhelmed you will be.”

 

If Necessary, Encourage Safe Travel

 

Cruz recommends encouraging guests to attend remotely if they would need to travel from out of town. However, if travel is essential, there are extra precautions that can help limit the likelihood of contracting COVID-19 on the way to the wedding. She adds that if guests test before traveling, their tests are essentially void because they risked exposure during the travel process. "Remind guests that they will need to quarantine in advance of the event and near the destination to mitigate risk, and then test for the most accurate results," she says. Travel should be well thought out and planned well in advance—at least three days before the event, according to Hess. “Driving is ideal since you can minimize human contact, but if flying is required, guests should review their airline’s travel guidelines and bring hand sanitizer and wipes in their carry on so they can wipe down surfaces,” says Hess. He also recommends renting a car versus relying on ride-sharing services and staying in a hotel versus staying with family. “Hotels have strict guidelines they follow and air conditioners for each room, which means you won’t be sharing air with everyone else in the building,” he says. “Home-sharing services, like Airbnb, are more difficult to ensure the host is the cleaning and sanitizing effectively, but of course is another option.”

 

What to Do on the Wedding Day


After all the pre-planning and approvals, additional safety measures will need to be taken on the day-of. You will want to discuss these in detail with your venue and team but we have one key message for everyone: Even with extensive testing, couples must enforce safety measures such as social distancing and mask-wearing at a gathering of this size, especially if it is indoors. "It may be a good idea for the wedding party to ask someone to be what we call a 'COVID Compliance Officer,'" suggests Debiec. "Imagine a groomsman or bridesmaid just for COVID—this may not sound like a very unpleasant job but all they would be doing is making sure everyone follows the rules of masks and possibly wiping down all things that could be touched quite a bit during the wedding."

 

A Few Other Recommendations? 

 

You can create punny signs that outline any sort of guidelines, add COVID-friendly items to swag bags, and acknowledging that just by showing up, your guests have done so much work to be part of your special day. “Lean on your vendors for expert advice as to what is realistic and best practices for bringing your as-close-as-possible vision to life while executing a seamless, safe event,” he says. “Breathe, be patient, embrace creativity, and wash your hands.” The World Health Organization has declared the current outbreak of Coronavirus (COVID-19) a pandemic.


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Monday, March 01, 2021

Is There an Ideal Place to Meet a Single Man or Woman?

 

Dame Stella Eronmonsere-Ajanaku, a best-selling author of romance stories, gives her views and explains - Is There a Specific Place to Meet a Guy or Woman. Are Your Standards Too High?


Monday, February 22, 2021

When Love Hurts

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There is a saying, “Love is not supposed to hurt.” However, we are talking about when lovemaking begins to hurt. You are probably wondering how engaging in sex becomes painful. Well, wonder no more. To discover common sex injuries and other hazards, please click here.

Monday, February 15, 2021

Monday, February 08, 2021

Stuck at Home Alone - Five Romance Stories You Can Read on Saint Valentine’s Day

It may come as no surprise, but some men and women do not have a partner to celebrate Saint Valentine’s Day. Moreover, with COVID-19 still here, along with the discovery of a new strain, folks should avoid traveling, large gatherings, and remain home. Many couples also have a long-distance relationship. Rather than travel, they will most likely remain home or go viral to connect.

 

Being alone on Saint Valentine’s Day does not mean you are lonely. With over seven billion people in the world, you are never alone. In one way or another, we are all connected.

 

Therefore, we have listed five romance books that you can read on this special day. If you are lucky to have someone in your life with you, read the stories together.

 

To purchase these books, click on the title. Happy Reading and Have a Romantic Saint Valentine’s Day.

Café Mocha by Vivienne Diane Neal

This is the author’s first and only sensual romance short story, focusing on Cinnamon Jones a divorcée who has decided to change her way of thinking when it comes to meeting men. No more will she settle for someone who does not measure up to her high standards, which she did when she first met her husband, Horatio Jones. When he became successful, he dumped her. However, after she meets Ray Samuel in a café, sparks will fly. Will Cinnamon find true love, or will she end up making the same mistake twice?

Royal Cowries by Stella-Eromonsere-Ajanaku

This saga takes place during the late 1400s in Igodomigodo, an ancient city in Nigeria where men rule and women are beholden to the statutes of the land, a time where tradition, religion, combat, loyalty, principles, romance, love, and passion define a nation. But when Uvbi, a true feminist is ordered by her authoritarian father to marry a ruthless warrior, she disobeys his demands and flees. When she crosses paths with Nagudia, a  humble craftsman and warrior, it sets the backdrop for an absorbing romantic story.

 

Saba & Nisha by Lakshmi Raj Sharma

Presents an authentic view on how destiny can decide who we choose to love and whether the desire to be with that person develops into a lasting bond when tradition, religion, class, and the changing roles of women come into play.

Unlawful Desires (Lawyers in Lust Book 1) by Sassy Sinclair, aka Pamela Samuels Young

Sharla Ratliff and Marcel Dennard are lawyers and have no luck when it comes to seeking a lifetime partner until they meet at a dance.

Married in The Nick of Nine (Cass & Nick Series, Book 1) by Alretha Thomas

Cassandra Whitmore wants to get married in nine months but keeps meeting total jerks until she discovers Nicolas Harte at a nightclub and believes he is “The One.”

Monday, February 01, 2021

Congratulations to UBAWA’s Top 100 Authors of 2020

UBAWA's Top 100 Authors is an annual list published at the end of every year to celebrate the many talented authors whose work often goes unnoticed. Congratulations to the following authors below who were nominated and chosen by readers as UBAWA'S Top 100 Authors of 2020.


UBAWA'S Top 100 Authors of 2020 will be published in the 41st issue of the UBAWA Magazine and featured in the next edition of Who's Who in Urban Literature
. If no one else takes the time out to recognize the hard work that many independent authors put in day-to-day, we will. It has been our mission and commitment since 2010 and we are happy that you and thousands of others can join us in giving these authors their props. 

AMarie Johnson
Arica P. Quinn
Asar
Ashantay Keys
Ashley Antoinette
Bai Jaye
Barbie Amor
Black Lavish
Brittnee Collins
Brooklyn Knight
Candice Persail
Carde’l
Candies Williams
Caryn Lee
Chase Sidora
Che Moon
Christopher Cannon
Coco Mixon
Cole Hart
Cyn Alexander
DeAnn Orr
Demetrius M. Walker
Destiny Skai
Ebonee’ M. Abby
Eboni Ellison
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Ebony Turrentine
Elbie Dee
Elijah Foreman
Fatima Munroe
Honey Thomas
Iesha Bree
India T. Norfleet
J. Asmara
Jelissa Shantae’
Jay Elle
Jaz’ Akins
Jaz Moore
Karen Renee
Kasaundra Hamilton
Katrina Lee
Kayla Isaac
KC Mills
Keila Rowe
Keira James
Kema
Kera Dashae
Khatari
Kiara Wilson
King De’Kari
Lady Lissa


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Lakeisha Martin
​LaShawn Vasser

LaTresa Renee Harris
Lexi-b
Linette King
Londyn Lenz
Malay Renee’
Margaret Cooper
Marissa Palmer
Marina Chestnut
Meco Jones
Meesha Turner
Mel Rush
Mesha Mesh
Michelle Kay
Monica F. Walters
Mo’Nik
Myia White
Natisha Raynor
Niki Jilvontae
Nikita Greely
Octavia T. Grant
Osharra Caine
ROBIN
Quardeay Julien

Quasia Little
Sabrina Jenkins
Sanina
Sherri Marie
S Jones
Sonja B
Stephanie Partee
Sultana Sams
SYvonne Powell
Tamyra Griffin
Taniece McDaniel
Tanisha Stewart
Tasha Nashay
Tatiana Sanon-Ellis
Thea
Theresa Ann
Theresa Reese
Tiffani Taylor
Tisha Andrews
T. Styles
Tyanna Coston
Unique Waterfall
Veronica Malone
Xavier Neal
Zarkia



Monday, January 25, 2021

Virtual Book Tour - Meet Megan Slayer, Author of Doc Cedarwood

GENRE: Contemporary, LGBTQ Erotic Romance




Can an accident and a rim job lead to lasting love?

Aiden Connor isn't looking for a date. Sure, he wants one, but relationships seem to be too difficult to maintain. He's an ER doctor and doesn't have time for commitment...that is, until he runs over a curb and needs a new rim for his sports car. The mechanic isn't anything like he expects, but could be the one man he needs if he's willing to open his mind and heart.


Matt Phillips equates dating with disaster, but sees himself as an eternal optimist. When he catches sight of Aiden, he wants to give relationships a try. Every cell in his body screams to get the sexy doctor naked and in his bed. But Matt has demons and addictions he's still working through. Will he fall prey to his past or learn and move forward with the hot doctor?

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©Megan Slayer, 2020. All Rights Reserved

 

Maybe I’m dating the wrong men.

 

“I keep telling myself that. Jordan tells me the same thing, but I still want to clobber Farin when he goes Groomzilla on us. I wasn’t this bad when I married Jordan—at least I don’t think so. We walked, we stood, we said I do, then had one hell of a party at the house.” Colin shook his head. “I just wouldn’t have thought he’d be…like this.”

 

“It’ll be over in two days. You’ll live.” Aiden clapped Colin on the shoulder. “Speaking of days, I have exactly one day off before I’m expected back at the hospital. I’m on for an eight-hour shift on Saturday, so if I’m running late, that’s why.”

 

“We’ll keep an eye out. Thanks for the heads-up and thanks for talking to the group. Have a good night.” Colin winked, then strode away.

 

Aiden grabbed his jacket from the coat rack. The weight of a twenty-four-hour shift had gotten to him. He wanted to go home but wondered if he’d make it. As he navigated through the halls of the hospital, he waved at a couple of the nurses and, in the foyer, nodded to the elderly woman behind the main counter. The moment he stepped into the chilly October air, he blinked and dragged a long breath into his lungs. Nothing worked to wake him up like crisp fall evenings. Well, nothing like those and a good blow job in the morning, but he wasn’t likely to get one. He’d need a boyfriend first. He’d worry about his lack of a partner later. Right now, he wanted to go home, slip into a warm bath or hot shower and collapse for twelve hours straight. Maybe he would meet someone at the wedding or reception.

 

Maybe hell will freeze over first.

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Megan Slayer, aka Wendi Zwaduk, is a multi-published, award-winning author of more than one-hundred short stories and novels. She’s been writing since 2008 and published since 2009. Her stories range from the contemporary and paranormal to LGBTQ and white hot themes. No matter what the length, her works are always hot, but with a lot of heart. She enjoys giving her characters a second chance at love, no matter what the form. She’s been nominated at the LRC for Best Author, Best Contemporary, Best Ménage, Best BDSM and Best Anthology. Her books have made it to the bestseller lists on Amazon.com.

 

When she’s not writing, Megan spends time with her husband and son as well as three dogs and three cats. She enjoys art, music and racing, but football is her sport of choice. She’s an active member of the Friends of the Keystone-LaGrange Public library. Find out more about Megan and Wendi by clicking here.

 

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Monday, January 18, 2021

The Little Things Official Trailer (2021)

Two police officers hunt a serial killer.

Watch the trailer for The Little Things, bringing Denzel Washington back to screen alongside fellow Academy Award® winners Rami Malek and Jared Leto. 



Coming to theaters and streaming exclusively on HBO Max on January 29, 2021.

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Monday, January 11, 2021

Don’t Allow Family Members to Rain on Your Relationship by Miss Know It All

Miss Know It All  

It is usually a given that some family members will try to interfere with your relationship by providing unwanted advice about the person you have selected to be your significant other. While some members mean well, others can create havoc by spreading rumors or lies about your partner. A few will go so far as to say they saw your man or woman engaging in some sexual activities, which may be far from the truth due to resentment. 

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I enjoy watching the reality TV court show: Couples Court with the Cutlers, who are married attorneys, where couples come to court to find out if their lover or spouse is cheating by taking a lie detector test. Some of the reasons folk give for suspecting their partner of cheating can be hilarious, like sniffing a man’s private part or finding condoms or a woman’s panties in a car. Sometimes a family member has supposedly seen the person cheating, yet the lie detector will indicate no cheating. Most of the time, the relationship will become stronger through counseling; in some cases, the bond or family liaison will end because people refuse to mind their own business. 


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