When a Man is Not into You by Vivienne Diane Neal

I enjoy watching true TV court cases. In the past I have authored articles on what to look for when you meet a man online. Well, I thought I had heard it all, but you can always learn something new every day.

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A woman met a man online. They dated for three months. She wanted to celebrate their 3 months together by planning a lovely dinner and a stay at a hotel and wanted her date to pay for half. As it turns out, he told the judge he did not agree to pay half. So, to get out of the celebration, he faked his death. Yes, that is what I said, “He Faked his own death.”

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After going through emotional turmoil and grieving for his death, the woman discovered seven months later that he was on social media with a woman who had two children; the children were not his. She decided to sue him for emotional suffering, resulting from her state after thinking he had died from a swimming accident that his cousin recommended.

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The plaintiff lost her case because there was no agreement made that he would pay half for the celebration. So, the judge ruled in favor of the defendant.

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How dating has changed. When money is involved, you must put your dating plans in writing and have both parties sign the agreement. When I was dating, if a man did not want to pay full price or half for a date, he would not show up. You would get the message then that he was not really into you. ©

 

What mistakes do you believe the woman made while dating this man? Please leave your comments below. Thank you.

The Bitter Side to Infidelity by Miss Know It All

 

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A couple of years ago, I wrote about a side to infidelity that has been trending for a while. Today, more people in marriages are ‘micro-cheating,’ defined as being emotionally or physically involved with someone outside of the marriage. 

The Urban Dictionary defines ‘micro-cheating’ as behaviors considered disloyal within a relationship, nothing too serious but not too innocent either. It can be frequent flirting, touching, calling, texting, chatting, or asking someone for intimate advice, all hidden from your partner.

 

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However, when it comes to marriage, where there is physical cheating, the signs can be obvious, but as to whether your partner is micro-cheating, the messages may be vague. Moreover, if you decide to stay with that person there is no telling how that marriage will sustain itself. Many experts will recommend marriage counseling. Unfortunately, in countless cases, the damage has been done and no amount of advice will save that marriage.

Just one month after giving birth to their son, a popular talk show host revealed how she discovered her spouse was cheating on her. What tipped her off was a late-night phone call. She overheard her husband talking to another woman, who eventually became pregnant. The host’s husband even purchased an abode for the mistress and their child, but later added that the host and her husband moved on from the incident stronger than before. 

In hindsight, the host stated that she never would have believed that someone as successful as she would have stayed with a cheater, and says she does not regret staying with him for over twenty years when enough was enough. 

Remaining with a person who has committed infidelity in a marriage is a personal choice. However, as most people, who have faced a betrayal(s) in their marriage, will state, “Once a cheater, always a cheater, and generally, the marriage doesn’t get any better if you decide to remain in that union.”

When a Relationship Is Over, That Ship Has Sailed by Miss Know It All

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Some people go into a relationship with their eyes wide shut and have to learn, early on, that not all hook-ups will end happily ever after. Yet, someone will continue to force a person to remain in a union that is not working and probably never will, no matter how hard a man or woman may want the bond to continue.  When’s over, it’s over. Don’t dwell over spilled milk, and never jump into another relationship until you’ve given yourself enough time to analyze why the relationship ended so badly, and what lessons can be learned from the breakup.

Whatever bad issues you had with an ex-lover, leave it in the past. You know the saying: “We were two ships passing in the night but not taking it any further was probably the best move he or I could have made.” Most likely, you have given a lot of thought to this catchphrase.

We meet someone for a reason, for a season or for a lifetime. A lifetime is majestic but it may not be eternal for some couples. And that’s okay. When you meet someone who is amazing and the attraction is so strong that the two of you end up becoming an item, thinking that he or she is going to be an everlasting soul mate, but then you discover, for whatever reasons, that the excitement ended fast and on a sour note. It’s time to go your separate ways and hope the bad memories won’t force you to make the same mistakes again. When a man or woman says “It’s no longer working,” believe him or her. Life is too short to waste your time and energy on someone who no longer wants to be with you and was only in it for a speedy fix. When the thrill is gone, put a period behind it and move on.

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Release Date Announcement for Deception in Plain Sight, a Crime Novel by Vivienne Diane Neal

Genre: Fiction

Description:

Christine Bailey, a naïve young woman of wealth and privilege, falls for and marries Awesome Petté, a charming man who is not what he appears to be. By using romance, lust and sex, he will worm his way into her life, ruin her financially, and destroy her parents’ billion dollar empire that has been in the family for over four generations.

Excerpt 1:

Awesome Petté and Christine Bailey were destined to meet. Both of their families were successful. Although, her family was more prosperous than his was. His family could not hold a candle in their world. Old money carried more standing than some Johnny-come-lately, which was what the Pettés were, arriving too late to the billionaires’ ball.  

The community center, where Christine worked, provided preparation and assistance to people who wanted to start their own venture or make improvements on an existing business. Volunteering her expertise in this area was one way to give back to the community.

Her parents would say, “It is your duty to help those who are less fortunate than you are.” Whether it was out of guilt for having so much given to her or just being altruistic, Christine would become a non-paying consultant to potential or current entrepreneurs at the center. 

When she first walked into the classroom, a feeling of ecstasy took control of her body. She could not comprehend why these emotions were starting to overpower her. She was never one to allow anything or anyone to distract her from her work.

What is going on here? Christine asked herself. What is happening to me? My panties are moist; my nipples are hard. I had better start meditating before I end up embarrassing myself. Finally, those feel-good sensations subsided.

Scanning the room, she took a deep breath and introduced herself. “Good morning, ladies and gentlemen. My name is Ms. Christine Bailey, but you may call me Christine.” She had to pause for a second. “I will be your instructor for the next twelve weeks. Before we begin, please, introduce yourself. Tell me why you are here; what do you hope to get out of this course, and what are your plans for the future.”

There were eight students taking the course. Each person gave some information about him or herself.

“I would like to open a daycare center.”

“My intention is to start a tech company.”

“Opening a clothing store has always been a dream of mine.”

“We can always use more eating establishments in our community.”

“I am very good at styling hair. My goal is to open a hair salon.”

 Suddenly, a voice interjected. “Hello, Christine. My name is Awesome Petté. I am taking this course because I plan to become a millionaire before age thirty.”

Christine was in a state of amusement. “Mr. Petté, are you trying to be funny? Did someone say you were awesome, and you could not take a joke?” Everyone roared with laughter.

“No! I am not attempting to be a comedian. My first name is Awesome. If you check your roster, you will see. My parents bestowed that name to me for reasons I do not wish to discuss. Perhaps, over dinner, I can tell you why they gave me that name,” he responded, gazing at her vertically.

By now, some of the students were beginning to dislike his attitude and saw him as an arrogant little man and a butt kisser.  If Christine had those same thoughts, no one in the classroom would ever know, because Awesome Petté had her completely under his control.

She now understood why those hidden sentiments exploded inside of her when she walked into that classroom. That fine-looking hunk was transmitting telepathic vibrations to me. Lord, deliver me from temptation.

While talking, Christine had trouble concentrating. She was fumbling over her words. At times, she was repeating herself. Students were beginning to notice her eyeballs fixated on Awesome. It was as though no one else was in that room but the two of them.

The class was supposed to meet for two hours, but Christine decided to end the lecture after sixty minutes. Everyone got the message: Awesome Petté was going to be her little pet.

Excerpt 2:

Christine finished her business in D.C. earlier than she had anticipated and returned home a week earlier. It was Friday evening when she walked into the house. She was ready to jump into Awesome’s arms and make love to him, but he was not home.

She went upstairs, unpacked, showered and got into her new sexy lingerie, which she purchased at an upscale boutique; she went straight to bed and waited for him.

Suddenly, the home phone rang. “You are in great danger,” the caller said.

“Who is this?” There was silence on the other end. Ten minutes later, the phone rang again. “Hello.”

“Awesome Petté is a deceitful person; he will break your heart.”

“Why do you keep calling?” There was a click. At first, Christine thought it was her mother but remembered she never gave her the home phone number.

Even if her mother knew where they lived and looked up the number in the telephone book or called directory assistance, it would be futile, because the number was unlisted.

It was probably a prankster, Christine thought.

The landline phone was old school; there was no way the caller’s number would show. There was no redial button, so Christine would never know who made that call.

It was after eight when Awesome arrived home. He went up to the bedroom and could not believe his eyes.

 “It’s good to see you. I thought you were coming home next week.”

Good thing I did not have a woman with me, he thought.

“My work with the client finished ahead of schedule. The company loved my presentation and did not see the need for me to stay any longer. Besides, I missed you; come to momma.”

This woman is going to be the death of me, he thought.

“I missed you too. Give me a couple of minutes to get myself together.” Knocking boots was the last thing on his mind. He took a shower and returned all dried.

“Oh, baby, you should have let the water run down on your searing body. It turns me on,” she purred.

“If you like, I can go back and shower my body with warm water and return dripping wet.”

“Stop it and do me as though we are participating in a lovemaking marathon.”

“Yes, your highness; now open wide.” He surged inside of her, releasing hot lava throughout her sensuous channel.

“Sweetie, you are outdoing yourself.”

“Thank you, ma’am, I am here to please you.” They stimulated each other for several hours until they both fell asleep.

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Release Date: October 31, 2014

Kindle Edition: $4.99

Pre-Order Purchase Link: Amazon

Why Some Smart Women Fall for Men Behaving Badly by Miss Know It All

Why do women, who have so much going for themselves, end up with losers? When it comes to selecting their educational and career choices, women make good decisions. However, with some women, there seems to be a breakdown in common sense when it comes to selecting men without substance.

What I am saying is that women have to be more selective when it comes to finding a mate. Just as you would exam a house before buying it, or do your research before purchasing a car or a major appliance, you would apply these same assessments when it comes to meeting and establishing a relationship with the opposite sex.

“With age comes wisdom.” Unfortunately, this is not always the case.

Take for example the teenage girl who met her boyfriend in high school. It was love at first sight. Then, the boy began to exhibit some shady behavior throughout their relationship, dropped out of high school and partook in criminal activities. She went to college, got her BS degree, took the LSAT (Law School Admission Test) and is now preparing to become a lawyer and will eventually take the bar exam. Yet, she still stayed with this person, because she loved him and thought she could change him.

The ultimate humiliation came when she lent him money, and he refused to pay back the loan. She took him to small claims court and sued him for the money. Mind you, she had him sign a promissory note. In this instance, she used good old common sense and applied what she learned in contract law. However, to add more insult to injury, he swore the signature on the note was not his. When the judge compared the signature on his driver’s license to the signature on the promissory note, they were a perfect match, and she won her case.

When it comes to romance, many women mistake bad behavior as an act of love and actually believe they can change that individual for the better. So take note: You will never be able to change anyone unless that individual decides to change on his own.

Therefore, the next time you meet someone, take a step back, do your homework and watch how that person conducts himself, which will tell you whether this individual is worth being in your life.