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The Bitter Side to Infidelity by Miss Know It All

 

Miss Know It All

A couple of years ago, I wrote about a side to infidelity that has been trending for a while. Today, more people in marriages are ‘micro-cheating,’ defined as being emotionally or physically involved with someone outside of the marriage. 

The Urban Dictionary defines ‘micro-cheating’ as behaviors considered disloyal within a relationship, nothing too serious but not too innocent either. It can be frequent flirting, touching, calling, texting, chatting, or asking someone for intimate advice, all hidden from your partner.

 

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However, when it comes to marriage, where there is physical cheating, the signs can be obvious, but as to whether your partner is micro-cheating, the messages may be vague. Moreover, if you decide to stay with that person there is no telling how that marriage will sustain itself. Many experts will recommend marriage counseling. Unfortunately, in countless cases, the damage has been done and no amount of advice will save that marriage.

Just one month after giving birth to their son, a popular talk show host revealed how she discovered her spouse was cheating on her. What tipped her off was a late-night phone call. She overheard her husband talking to another woman, who eventually became pregnant. The host’s husband even purchased an abode for the mistress and their child, but later added that the host and her husband moved on from the incident stronger than before. 

In hindsight, the host stated that she never would have believed that someone as successful as she would have stayed with a cheater, and says she does not regret staying with him for over twenty years when enough was enough. 

Remaining with a person who has committed infidelity in a marriage is a personal choice. However, as most people, who have faced a betrayal(s) in their marriage, will state, “Once a cheater, always a cheater, and generally, the marriage doesn’t get any better if you decide to remain in that union.”

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Getting Involved with a Married Person Can Cost You

Recently, there was an uproar regarding a celebrity who is involved with a married man, and many on social media were accusing her of being a homewrecker. Although the man is supposedly legally separated from his wife, it doesn’t mean he is legally divorced.

Many people may not be aware of this, but in some states, a spouse can sue a third party who interferes with his or her marriage or is responsible for the failure of that marriage. This is known as Alienation of Affection. Usually, the individual will sue the cheating spouse’s lover but even family members, clergy, therapists and counselors who have encouraged a divorce have been sued.

When it comes to which states a person can sue for Alienation of Affection, at the present time they are Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Dakota, and Utah.

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The Distorted Side to Infidelity by Miss Know It All

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There have been discussions about a side to infidelity that is trending right now. According to some experts, more people in relationships are ‘micro-cheating,’ which is defined as being emotionally or physically involved with someone outside of the marriage.

The Urban Dictionary defines ‘micro-cheating’ as behaviors considered disloyal within a relationship, nothing too serious but not too innocent either. It can be frequent flirting, touching, calling, texting, chatting or asking someone for intimate advice, all hidden from your partner.

When it comes to physical cheating, the signs can be quite obvious, but as to whether your partner is micro-cheating, the messages may be vague.

According to Australian Psychologist and consultant, Melanie Schilling, there are signs to look out for when someone is micro-cheating:

·      Schilling calls these actions “covert flirting” because you’re keeping it from your partner. It’s not one single action but a series of small activities that put the focus on a person outside your relationship.

·     “You might be engaging in micro-cheating if you secretly connect with another person on social media, if you share private jokes, if you downplay the seriousness of your relationship to your partner or if you enter their name under a code in your phone,” she told Daily Mail.

·      The first indication of micro-cheating is the secrecy surrounding your partner’s activities. One thing to look at is if the person is having private conversations or online messaging that they stop once you enter the room. Or are they complimenting someone of the opposite sex with things they never tell you? If you catch the person in the act of micro-cheating, they could easily excuse their behavior as merely a friendship, but Schilling says there are ways to differentiate the two.

·      “However, if they start to conceal their relationship from you or lie to you about it, then start considering the appropriateness of their connection.” In the end, Schilling told Daily Mail to ultimately trust your gut, but she does caution to be rational instead of emotional about it.

Since micro-cheating is not considered full blown cheating, it is important to remember the relationship you and your partner form must be clear as to what types of behaviors are acceptable or to make known when the lines are being crossed.

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Engaging in a Secret Affair - Right or Wrong? By Miss Know It All

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A poster on one of the social networks, of which I am member, had asked the following question: My friend is planning a secret affair and wanted my advice. What is the best way to conduct a secret affair? Are there any good tips to avoid getting caught, like hiding text messages, apps and emails, etc? I said, “Get another secret pay as you go phone.” Do you have any other ideas?

Anonymous

When I read the question, I made the following comment: “Once two people participate in an affair, it's no longer a secret” and left it at that. But I was stunned by some of the comments posted, which have been paraphrased for clarity:

Your wife or girlfriend will always find out. We women just have a way of finding out about secret affairs. Now that does not mean every women will not accept her husband for having a secret affair, if she is having the same too.

The best way to keep an affair a secret is to always meet at a hotel in another city, at least 100-miles from your home. But in today’s world, with everyone using the same DAMN iPhone, it becomes very hard to keep your calls and messages a secret.

I think meeting in different places, and a secret mobile phone kept in the car. Tell nobody about it, although best friends can cover. 100 miles mean more time away; so that might not work. With an iPhone, it is best to switch off GPS. What about smelling of perfume?

Well, if she or he gets a whiff of the secret mobile phone kept in the car, then that is the ultimate giveaway.

Don't know, I’m asking how to cover your tracks.

The best way to have a secret affair is in your head! The truth always comes out, as one lie always leads to the next and bigger lie, until it all gets exposed. Since there is more technology to use, it also leaves more evidence to be discovered. When a woman wants to find out, she will... and she will pick up on the slightest bit of guilt your friend may have. Any change in his ways, she will pick up on. Women have a way to sniff stuff out...it’s a gift.

Now mind you, I am not one to judge anyone who decides to cheat on their spouse, because what is done in the dark will sooner or later come to light, which may have dire consequences.

We would like to know what your take is on the question, and how would you answer this person if the question was put to you? Post your answers in the comment box.

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When Your Clean-Cut Image Becomes Tarnished by Vivienne Diane Neal

Human beings are not perfect. Everyone has flaws and makes mistakes. Some oversights are minor, while others can be devastating. Depending on the seriousness of the blunder, a simple apology may suffice. But, when infidelity occurs in a marriage, the damage done can be more demoralizing because the trust is now broken.  Only the person hurt or affected by the indiscretion and the unfaithful spouse will have to work out the difficulties on their own terms and in private.

  

But what happens when the person committing the indiscretion is well-known and is constantly in the public’s eye? Society has a tendency to put some of these people on a pedestal or assign them the title: “role model,” which can be a heavy burden to carry because high expectations are always placed on these people. At the same time, society is just as quick to knock these people off that foundation when cheating on one’s spouse is involved, and the transgression becomes public knowledge. Suddenly, the floodgates of salacious details slowly come to the surface. Before you know it, the person’s lack of judgment becomes front-page news and a lead-in for the six o’clock news. Now everyone becomes the judge, jury and castigator, because the public feels betrayed. Yet, the person who committed the wrongdoing becomes irate because he or his family’s life is no longer a private matter.

Awhile back, many women came forward accusing a famous and well-admired celebrity of sexual misconduct. He denied the improprieties, and many of the accusers were vilified by the public. But recently, sealed court documents revealed that the person confessed to giving Quaaludes to a woman, without her knowledge or consent, so he could have sex with her. How he could have thought this and other misdeeds would stay hush-hush for so long is far-fetched. Like an ostrich, he must have buried his head in the sand. It is also alleged that some of the women were paid-off to keep quiet, and two of his accusers did receive a settlement. Since the statute of limitations for sexual assault has expired, we don’t know if this person will ever face any criminal charges.

Many prominent people will knowingly put themselves in compromising positions, thinking their money, power and status will protect them, but this is not always the case.

If you want to preserve your somewhat clean-cut image and protect yourself from serious accusations, the first rule of thumb is to honor your vows. Surround yourself with people who will always watch your back and steer you on the right path. Not everyone who chuckles and smiles in your face, pats you on the back or shakes your hand is a friend or means you well. A true friend will never urge you to take part in any precarious acts that would put you, your spouse, and others in an embarrassing situation. If you have to meet a woman for a business meeting, meet in a public place and not in a hotel room where there is just the two of you. Take a confidant with you.

Do not share any intimate information with anyone other than your spouse; if you do, it is no longer confidential. All it takes is for an argument, a misunderstanding, envy or jealousy to rear its ugly head, and everything you have said or done in concealment might eventually become tomorrow’s headlines. If you feel the urge to have an affair, nip it in the bud, be upfront and talk it over with your spouse. If a partner conducts a clandestine affair using text messaging, email or a cell phone, he is definitely begging to get caught in the act.

Finally, if fidelity is not your cup of tea and having a harem or women, who are consenting adults and willing participants, in every port is your thing, do yourself a big favor: Don’t Get Married! When you play outside of your marriage, you may end up paying dearly.

Something to Say About Being with a Man Who Does Not Value You by Vivienne Diane Neal

There’s a saying, “When a man shows you who he really is, believe him.” This reminds me of a court case I recently saw on TV. The woman was engaged to her significant other, and they had been together for nine years, but he made it very clear that being faithful to her was not in the cards, even though he professed his love for her, and she in turn loved him.

For one reason or another, many women get involved and become engaged to men knowing what their true intentions are: making every woman happy and one woman miserable, and that discontented woman will end up being you. For some men, being faithful to one woman is not one of their strong suits, but women will still marry them because they love these guys, unconditionally, and don’t want to end up being alone.

But in reality, you are alone. To think that being engaged to a man and loving him while he is attempting to bed every women on earth, says he will never respect you, because in his mind, you are nothing more than a vessel for him to use at will. And as long you continue to remain with this man, you are allowing him to disrespect you and put your health at risk. And don’t think for one second that after the marriage he will change. This is not likely to happen unless there is some divine intervention.

Loving yourself plays a great role when it comes to loving someone else. If you have a low-opinion of yourself, you will most likely attract a man who does not value himself. So, it stands to reason, if he does not revere himself, he will never show admiration for you or any of the women he meets throughout his life.

This does not mean that you will feel good about yourself every single day. Heck, there are days when most of us don’t like ourselves. But this does not mean that you should allow someone else to come into your life and disregard your feelings on a daily basis. Remember, you can do well all by yourself. 

The Pitfalls That Can Lead to Infidelity by Miss Know It All

Miss Know It All

Human beings are not perfect. Everyone has flaws and makes mistakes. Some oversights are minor, while others can be devastating. Depending on the seriousness of the blunder, a simple apology may suffice. However, when infidelity occurs in a marriage, the damage done can be more demoralizing because the trust is now broken. Only the person hurt or affected by the indiscretion, and the unfaithful spouse will have to work out the difficulties on their own terms.   

Many prominent and not so famous married men and women face enticements all the time. Some will frivolously put themselves in compromising positions, without giving it a second thought and will end up becoming sitting ducks by individuals who will set the trap, bide their time, and exploit those misconducts.

If you want to avoid the pitfalls which can lead to adultery, the first rule of thumb is to honor your vows. Surround yourself with people who will always watch your back and steer you on the right path. Not everyone who laughs or smiles in your face, pats you on the back or shakes your hand is a friend or means you well. A true friend(s) will never encourage you to participate in precarious actions that would put you, your spouse or family in an embarrassing situation. As a married person, try limiting your social activities with your single friends who frequent nightclubs, bars or casinos. Misery loves company. If you are alone, know when to leave the party; you do not have to be the last person standing at social events.

Do not share any intimate details with anyone other than your spouse. If you do, the particulars will no longer be confidential. All it takes is for an argument, a misunderstanding, envy or jealousy to rear its ugly head, and everything you have said or done in concealment might eventually become tomorrow’s headlines on social media. If you feel the urge to have an affair, nip it in the butt, be upfront and talk it over with your partner. When a spouse conducts a clandestine affair using text messaging, email or a cell phone, that person is definitely begging to be caught in the act.

Finally, if being faithful is not your cup of tea, then do yourself a big favor: Don’t Get Married! When you play outside of your marriage, you may end up paying dearly. Keep in mind, adultery is illegal in twenty-six states.

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That Person You are Dating is Probably Married - How to Recognize the Seven Warning Signs

Often we read or hear about men and women, who have met someone, fell madly in love, and became physically and emotionally involved with that person, only to discover that the individual they trusted the most was married. There are always warning signs when relationships are built on dishonesty. Do people consciously or unconsciously ignore these signs?

Whether they realize it or not, people who cheat on their spouses always give themselves away, and cheaters will avoid telling the person about their marital status because they want to maintain a back street liaison or have their cake and eat it too. In other words, everything is hidden and kept in the dark. Whether you are a man or a woman, you can protect yourself by recognizing these seven warning signs, what they may imply and facing them head on:

Warning Sign Number One - The person who never invites you to their home will probably have the following excuses:  She or he is sharing a room with several roommates who keep a clutter and dirty home. The roommates are loud and obnoxious, and you would be uncomfortable around them. The individual would be too embarrassed to invite you to their pad. That person is probably married with children.

Warning Sign Number Two - The person can only see you during the week, usually one day a week, because he or she works long hours on the weekends. When the person gets home, he or she is just too tired to see you or go out with you on a date. The individual is spending the weekends with the spouse and children.

Warning Sign Number Three - He or she will never take you out to a restaurant or accompany you to special events or family gatherings. The excuse will be, the person does not enjoy eating out and would rather have a home cooked meal. He or she will even go so far as to bring the food and cook it in your home. The individual is shy around too many people or does not enjoy being around crowds. The person is afraid someone will recognize him or her and expose their dirty little secret.

Warning Sign Number Four - During the holidays, he or she will suddenly have to leave town on business or will disappear for a while. While you are sitting home alone sipping wine and crying your eyes out, your “lover” is vacationing with the spouse and children and is having a fantastic time.

Warning Sign Number Five - The person will give you a cell phone, mobile or beeper number but will never give you their home phone number.

Warning Sign Number Six - You never meet the person’s parents, relatives or friends. The reason given: He or she is a loner and on bad terms with the kinfolks, or they live in a foreign country or were raised in an orphanage.

Warning Sign Number Seven - The person does not have a home address but a post office box. The reason given: He or she travels maybe ten months out of the year and constantly lives out of their suitcases and spend their time in hotel rooms, so a permanent residence would not make much sense. It would be too costly.

When it comes to the warning signs, I am generalizing here. These signs do not necessarily mean the person you are involved with is being deceitful or dishonest. The focus here is on men and women who have been in long-term relationships and may have had these sentiments. As the saying goes “If it acts or looks too good to be true, the individual is probably living a lie.”

When is Infidelity Acceptable? By Miss Know it All

Miss Know It All

I read an article in the November 2011 issue of AARP Magazine titled, When the Vow Breaks written by Mary A. Fischer. The piece begins with a husband whose wife is suffering from dementia, and how he spends every Saturday afternoon with his girlfriend.

After reading this editorial, the question is, “Is infidelity ever acceptable if a significant other is physically or mentally incapacitated?”

When couples vow to remain faithful, for better or for worse and in sickness and in health, sometimes that promise can become ambiguous if a spouse is not able to give or receive emotional or physical fulfillment because of a debilitating illness.

Most people agree that there is never any excuse for stepping outside of a marriage. However, some health professionals, social workers and religious leaders are beginning to redefine what adultery is when failing health becomes an issue. A few experts believe that establishing a relationship outside of the marriage could be beneficial to the caregiver and the person, who is suffering from a deteriorating disease.

Adultery is defined as sexual unfaithfulness of a married person. If a new definition of infidelity is suggested, perhaps the declarations recited during a wedding ceremony may also have to be modified.

What are your thoughts about this issue? Is it ever okay to commit adultery if a spouse cannot fulfill his or her partner’s physical or emotional needs because of fading health? Do you know of any couples who are presently going through this dilemma?