A Habit That Will Hurt Your Relationship

 

International Bestselling Author Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku offers advice on a Habit that Will Hurt Your Relationship!

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Should You Have Sex on the First Date? By Miss Know It All

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Miss Know It All

Many years ago, I was watching a talk show, and the subject matter was should you have sex on the first date. A guest on the show said he had asked a woman on their first date if she would have sex with him. Her answer was, “Will you respect me in the morning.” His answer was, “I don’t respect you now.” Wow, that was a punch in the gut. However, we were not facing a pandemic back then, but COVID-19 has changed all of that, as to how we date and engage in sex.

With the easing up of COVID-19 restrictions, what is in store for folks wanting to meet someone online for a date, thinking they may also get some nookie on the side? Well, brace yourself for the rude awakening because dating app Bumble surveyed roughly 1,000 Americans in May and 30% of them said they would not go on a date or have sex with someone who had not received the COVID-19 vaccination. Therefore, if you have skipped the shot so far, it could cost you the first date.

 

In 2014, Whitney Wolfe Herd founded Bumble, which also offers ways to meet friends and professionally network on its app. When Bumble Inc. went public in February of this year, Herd became the youngest self-made woman billionaire, according to Forbes. What makes Bumble unique is when two daters swipe right on the app, women are required to message first.

The app is also implementing new features to encourage people to get vaccinated. A "Vaccinated" badge, for example, launched this summer, will allow Bumble's US and UK users to indicate that they have received the vaccine on their profile and will offer complimentary credits for premium features to those who enable the "Vaccinated" badge. These will include giving them the Spotlight, which advances their profiles to the top of the stack, and SuperSwipe, which lets them indicate to a potential match that they stand out.

 

Bumble's research suggests the pandemic has dramatically altered social and sexual interactions. In the survey, commissioned by Bumble and carried out online in May by Censuswide, a research company, 91% of respondents said they believed there was no longer a stigma attached to meeting someone online or through a dating app since the pandemic began. 

 

Here is an attention-grabbing footnote to consider. In another survey, conducted by Research Without Barriers in 2021, 62% of respondents said it was important for them to talk about key social issues on a first date, namely gender equality, politics, race, or the environment. In addition, 75% of respondents said they would only date someone if the majority of their political and social views matched. 

Ten Spellbinding Books You Should Be Reading by Vivienne Diane Neal

While adjusting yourself from the slowly lifting of COVID-19 restrictions, these ten books will provide you with so much intrigue, suspense, espionage, and a touch of the unknown. You will be too involved in these stories to remember there was a pandemic. Enjoy and happy reading.

 

Stitches by Tiffany Christina Lewis - A non-conformist detective along with his newly assigned assistant investigates a gruesome murder.

 

Contracts & Bullets (A Leroy Silver Adventure) by Alex Cage - The government hires an assassin to eliminate a war criminal.

 

Agent Red - Fatal Target - ( A Teagan Stone Book 2) by Ava S. King - An operative, whose memory is slowly coming back from a past botched mission, sets out to thwart a threat against the United States.

 

A Murder Among Friends by Jennifer Lewis Williams - A surrogate carrying a baby for a Gay couple is abducted.

 

The Monarch Butterfly by Kimberly A. LaGrone-DeMarco - During a storm, a blurred figure helps two friends lost in the woods.

 

Within The Shadows by Brandon Massey - A son searching for help after his father gets into an automobile accident finds a mansion that may have an eerie relationship with his father.

 

The Devil’s Prayer (Book 2) by J. D. Oliva - Burglars steal an anonymous painting from a museum in the Netherlands.

 

Games of Guilt by Terry Keys - A detective receives news that a serial killer has struck again.

 

The Death Draft (Christina Avery Series Book 1-5) by Maxwell T. Blackmore - An author assaulted by thugs senses her ex-husband may have been responsible for the offense.

 

Material Witness (The Drew Smith Series) by Norwood Holland - A lawyer is accused of murdering his best friend.

A Site that Provides Inspiring Interviews with Authors from Around the World

 

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NFReads.com features both fiction and nonfiction authors across a wide variety of backgrounds, genres, and writing experience – from a Pennsylvania state representative who debuted with mental health-themed science fiction, to a former NASA space missions spokeswoman with over 25 children's educational books, to a UK politician-turned-thriller-writer with 330 million book sales to his name. 

NFReads.com not only includes best-selling authors but award-winning filmmakers, leading professors, scientists, politicians, and so much more!

How Stress Affects the Immune System

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As humans, we cannot survive without stress, no more than we can survive without each other. Stress is necessary because it helps us to cope with everyday life's situations. 

You can say the COVID-19 pandemic probably added more stress to our lives than we care to admit when it comes to our immune system, whose job is to fight disease-causing germs like viruses, and bacteria and to remove those pathogens from the body.   A weak immune system can lead to serious illnesses. However, many people do not know that stress is a major factor that can lead to an exhausted immune system.

Since more of us are vaccinated and getting back to normal activities, it is more important than ever to start doing more to lessen the stress in our lives.

Stress is pressures, strains, or changes placed on the body, which can affect your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. However, too much stress can seriously affect your psychological and spiritual well-being if you do not know how to handle or cope with these demands. When you are under too much stress, it is important to recognize it and do something about it. Unmanageable tension can lead to illnesses and chronic diseases. However, you can improve your resistance to too much worry by learning how to manage and control your life.

It is important to remember there are some occurrences in life that are just out of your control. There are many experiences in life you can learn to handle by identifying the stressors: actions that make you feel anxious and concerned. Here are some recommended ways to deal with stress:

Most of us do not realize that stress affects the digestive system and can lead to ulcers. Stressful responses increase strain on the circulatory system, which increases the heart rate. Moreover, stress affects the immune system by raising blood pressure, which leads to a myriad of illnesses and conditions. The long-term activation of stress leads to overexposure to cortisol and other hormones. As a result, there is a greater risk of developing heart disease, digestive problems, headaches, sleep deprivation issues, weight gain, and memory loss – not to mention anxiety and depression.

Unfortunately, stress is a part of life. It is not something you can control when it comes your way. However, you can take steps to manage how stress affects the immune system.

Some stress-fighting strategies include eating a healthy and well-balanced meal. When you are under additional stress, make certain you eat more foods high in B Vitamins, Vitamin C, Magnesium, and Zinc. These foods would include whole grains, dark green leafy vegetables, citrus fruits, nuts, legumes, and lean meats, respectively.

Getting enough sleep and regular exercise helps. Walking is one of the best forms of exercising because it strengthens the heart. You can also practice relaxation techniques, like yoga, which may enhance your libido. Meditate. Read a book or listen to music. You can dance away the stress, too!

Avoid self-medication. Even though you can use drugs to relieve stress temporarily, drugs will never remove the condition that causes the strain in the first place. Some medications may become habit-forming, and create more problems. Pills should only be taken on the advice of your physician.

Having a sense of humor does not hurt, either. Laughter is known to reduce stress. Add some TV sitcoms, comedies, and movies to your ‘what to watch list.’ The overall point is that learning to manage stress can lead to a longer and healthier life.

Stressed spelled backward is desserts. Researchers found that chocolate takes a bite out of stress. Dark chocolate specifically reduces the stress hormone cortisol.

Have you ever wondered why you reach for a chocolate bar when under a lot of stress? It may not just be a coincidence. Maybe your body is truly telling you something important.

But most of all, share your anxieties with friends, relatives, a lover, or a spouse by talking about your concerns or worries. Maintaining a strong immune system should be your number one priority. As someone once said, “Whatever is causing you bad stress, eliminate it.”

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Whether your meal comes from a restaurant, a street cart, or a family table, local cuisine always tells a story—of cultural influences, resourcefulness, and togetherness. From Sicily’s famous arancini to Turkey’s answer to pizza, here are five of our most delicious adventures—all of which we plan to operate in 2021.

 

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When in Rome: Why You Should Always Respect the Host Culture - Wherever your wanderlust takes you, it is important to respect the rules and customs. Just as you would not put your feet up on the furniture, or raid the refrigerator when you are visiting somebody's home, honor the space and its rules. For more details, click here.

 

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Be Successful at Virtual Dating with Body Language - Tips from a Former FBI Agent

 

                                                         

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If you are into your date, mirroring his or her body language shows you are interested, former FBI special agent Joe Navarro explained. Virtual dating is hard. It can seem nearly impossible to make a genuine connection while constrained to the flat rectangle of a video screen, but there is still a lot that people can gather from a person's body language.

 

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When on a video call, a person's body language changes tremendously compared to in-person interactions, said Joe Navarro, a retired FBI special agent and author of Be Exceptional: Master the Five Traits That Set Extraordinary People Apart.

 

Body language experts say a clean, well-lit video can help you make a good first impression on your virtual date. 

“People are used to seeing each other in a more nuanced way, such as seeing all of the body including hand movement and changes in skin and lip color. You don't normally focus on those things because they happen naturally, but the absence of that leaves us lacking, however, there are ways to read your date's body language over video call and put your best foot forward for a successful virtual date,” said Navarro.

 

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Making a Good First Impression 

According to Navarro, one of the first steps to starting a date on a positive note is to show your hands throughout the video call. Humans have a primal necessity to see each other's hands, so include hand gestures when talking.

For a Video Call 

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Navarro recommended bringing your hand motions closer to your body so they appear on the screen and slowing them down so they do not look like a blur. If you are interested in your date, mirroring the person's body language shows that you are interested, Navarro explained. Some common examples of mirroring include sitting in the same way and copying body language like nodding. 

Be genuine and make sure you are interested in the other person instead of being interesting, said Lillian Glass, a body communication and body language expert based in Beverly Hills, California. "This is your chance to be real and not play games and not waste time so that you can find the perfect person who's good for you," she said. It is also important to hold the video call in a well-lit room with a clean background because it allows the other person to see you better, Glass added. If the lighting where you live is not the best, she recommended investing in a ring light or other portable lighting device.

 

Signs Your Date Likes You 

 

You can read your date's body language to decipher if he or she is interested in you, Navarro said. According to Navarro, someone who is entranced by another person will tilt his or her head toward him or her. "We only expose our necks to people we're really comfortable with," he said. 

Some people may lean their whole bodies toward the camera, Glass said. Frequent and lasting smiles also show your date is off to a good start, she said. 

People who are interested in each other are more likely to preen, according to Navarro. Preening behaviors include fixing your appearance like touching your hair and straightening out your clothes.

 

Signs Your Date is Not That into You  

 

Not all virtual meet-ups end with your date falling madly in love with you and that is all right. One sign a person is not feeling the love is if he furrows the glabella (the spot between the eyebrows) more, Navarro said. "This will happen, especially if the other person is saying something that's really dumb or stupid that's not attractive to you," he said. 

 

Your date also might not be attracted to you if you see she is pulling away from the camera, or if she is moving a lot, Glass said. If your date is looking away frequently or appears distracted, that is another warning sign, she stressed. “Over a video call, people should take reading eye contact with a grain of salt, because it is normal for people not to know where to look or to look away periodically,” said Glass.

 

Navarro said, “Some people may also have more tension in their lips and even shift their jaw if they are not interested in the other person.” 

 

Red Flags to Look Out For  

 

There is no single behavior indicative of deception, said Navarro. Some behaviors indicate stress and anxiety. That can leave hints about whether your date is being truthful or not. When bothered, people often touch the suprasternal notch, the little notch above the sternum, he noted. When a woman is bothered by something, her hands move up there, and if a man is bothered, he tends to grab his neck, according to Navarro. "If I was asking somebody 'Are you dating somebody at the moment?' and they're touching this area, I'd have to wonder why," he said. 

 

Fidgeting can also be a sign someone is not being honest, said Glass. "If they go on and on and they go off on a tangent, that may give you a red flag as to whether or not they're telling you the truth," she added.

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Getting through HARD times | Motivation to Stay MARRIED!

Best selling romance author Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku will share some practical tips to get you through the hard times in your relationship! Please subscribe to her YouTube page, so you do not miss any of her future videos. 

How to Protect Yourself from Common COVID-19 Swindles by Vivienne Diane Neal

Whenever an epidemic strikes, you can be sure some people will create ways to steal your money or personal information through a phone call or an email.

 

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Not a day goes by where I do not receive a phone call from someone claiming that my warranty on my car has expired. The funny thing is I have never owned a car nor can I drive. Then there is a call from a so-called police association asking for a donation. To cut down on these calls, I will leave my answering machine on. If the caller does not leave a message, chances are it is a fraud.

 

Scammers can make it look as though they are calling from a genuine business. I received a call from a person pretending to be a major retailer, indicating that there were suspicious acts on my account. However, it does not end here. There are emails that I have received telling me that my vendor’s order was charged to my account and will be delivered shortly; if you have any questions, click on this link. Again, I do not have a vendor’s account at this particular company but if I did click on that link, my data and pertinent information would be at their disposal.

 

During times like this, you must stay vigilant. Protect yourself with the following tips:

 

·       Offers that appear to be too good to be true.

·       Suspicious websites, emails, or advertisements offering items and/or opportunities at impractical discounts.

·       Social media accounts that appear to offer vouchers or gift cards. Some may appear as seasonal promotions or contests.

·       Charity swindles where criminals set up false charities and profit from individuals who donate.

·       Online retailers that do not provide adequate information on privacy, terms and dispute resolution, or contact details.

·       Overseas sellers that force you to use your debit card instead of secure payment services like PayPal or credit cards.

 

If you think you have been a victim of a scam or identity theft, please visit  https://www.identitytheft.gov to file a report through the Federal Trade Commission.

Five Offbeat Honeymoon Destinations to Visit

Are you someone who loves exploring unexplored places with your soul mate? If the answer is yes, then some offbeat places will never let you come back from your honeymoon. Without giving a single thought, venture into these spectacular places and spend some of the best time of your honeymoon! 

 Nihi Sumba Island (Indonesia) 

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You must have heard about Bali, Jakarta, and Ubud in Indonesia, but there is the exotic island ‘NIHI SUMBA’ full of romance in the air. Nihi Sumba is one of the lesser-known places in the list of honeymoon destinations, but no other place can give you an aura of romance better than this exotic island. The island is also known as Horses Paradise because of the retired racehorses that are now a guardian angel of this island. It is a hidden paradise for spending some of the best quality time together.

 Bermuda (North America) 

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Known for its pink beach and rich history, Bermuda is one of a kind for a honeymoon getaway. Beautiful Bermuda will steal away your heart with its pristine beauty, uncrowded roads, and pink beaches that you will surely remember until your last breath. Situated on the east coast of North America, this 21 square mile island is an ideal destination for stunning sunsets. Gone are the days when you plan a candlelight dinner on a normal beach. Plan a special day with your partner on the alluring and captivating pink beach and feel the essence of love.

Cappadocia (Turkey)

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Think about a world full of hot air balloons. Cappadocia is one such place. Located in central Turkey, Cappadocia is full of Bronze Age homes that will give you the feel of walking amid a prehistoric period. Known for hot air balloon rides, this place is a romantic getaway for a newlywed couple. If you and your partner are interested in visiting churches, then this is the best place for you. Cappadocia is regarded as one of the most alluring UNESCO world heritage sites with plentiful rock-face churches.

Dingle (Ireland)

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Dingle is a small town in Ireland famously known for beauty spas and treatments. Located on the spectacular dingle peninsula, this place will take you in the lap of artistry and the exquisiteness of natural beauty. Dingle is the most romantic destination in Ireland for a romantic walk and many scenic views that are worth giving a shot. The best way to explore Dingle is to rent a car and leave for a long romantic drive with your partner.

Woodstock (Vermont)

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If you are looking for a remote, hidden, and honeymoon place, then Woodstock in Vermont is exactly what you are looking for. There are various sports activities, such as snowboarding, skiing, and ice climbing that you and your partner can indulge in and spend some adventurous time together. Woodstock is full of bewitching downtown and alluring outdoor views that will prove to be a whimsical experience for you two.

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