|Miss Know It All|
Monday, June 25, 2012
Watching Your Finances While Dating By Miss Know It All
A woman meets a man on an online dating site, and it is love at first sight. Before you know it, he is asking to borrow money. How many women lend or give money to men who are forever broke, unemployed, or behind in their child support payments.
This is not to say that men do not suffer from throwing your money after bad syndrome. However, this scenario seems to be more common among women who are willing to take over a grown man’s financial obligations. Suddenly, the man is gone with the cash; the woman is in a financial bind and has to chase him down like a bounty hunter or end up in small claims court to try to recoup her money.
Why so many women put themselves in this type of predicament is unknown. Maybe it is the need to be a nurturer or the fear of being alone. When you lend or give money to anyone, you are doing a disservice to yourself, by putting that individual first and you last.
A man of integrity and good character will never ask you for money to help pay his debts or to buy him a big-ticket item. If he is financially sound and responsible, he will not need your money to make ends meet. On the other hand, if he is looking for a cash withdrawal machine, or is out to be a moocher, he will let you know right from the start. There will be no beating around the bush on his end.
When you meet a man and decide to date him, and within seconds, he is asking you for a loan to help purchase a car, because he has bad credit, it means, he does not pay his bills. In all likelihood, you will never see your money.
No one is saying you should never help the love of your life. If he were going through a financial crisis, you would be there for him, but only if he has given as much as you have.